My ex “K” just broke up with me. She said she would like to still be friends, though, and since the breakup was friendly, I gladly said I was fine with that.
No
One easy way to avoid this predicament is moving across the ocean. You never have to particular relatives either. Move across the ocean immediately. Never turn back
It is so great absolutely NEVER running into someone from high school.
Lmao my mom was just asking me abt people from kindergarten who I was never even friends with they’ll still try to reel you in. Crazy people shit
Are you still friends with any of your axes
FTFY and yes
We still talk occasionally. Sometimes I think he thinks we should hook up. Sometimes I think we should hook up. But then I remember how stinky he was and gag a little bit and move on again.
Apparently one time, a guy saw us together in his apartment hallway just walking to the elevator, and later told my ex that we had a visible aura. Which is cool, I guess. But it might have just been a stink cloud from my ex.
Haven’t seen any of them in like 6 years, maybe more
No, we ended for a reason. Like her being a cheating bitch. Or we just were going different places and that’s okay but I see no need to force a friendship where one doesn’t need to be.
Yeah, just one. He left me for religious reasons (we’re both men). Took me a long time to actually get over him, but I moved on and married and such. The three of us hang out sometimes.
I do kinda wish I could convince him to be a little less religiously wacky. Oh well.
I know so many people in the community in relationships with religious wackos. What’s going on there?
I cannot speak for others. My ex was not religious when I met him. I feel like my experience isn’t similar to what you’ve encountered.
I keep in touch with 2 here and there - we don’t really talk much, but maybe a couple times a year at most. On good terms with both, but just living our own lives.
The other two I haven’t said a word to in years. One I’ve completely cut contact with, along with her entire circle I used to be friends with, once I snapped out of it and realized I’d just been taken advantage of and the whole group was toxic. Shitshow and a half, and also a big part of why I stepped away from a specific game’s community that we met through.
The last one I don’t like to dwell on too much, because in this case I know I was the abusive asshole - I’ve grown and changed since then, and there’s no point opening old wounds by reaching out. I hope they’re doing well these days and have processed and healed from the damage I know I caused.
Ended a 16 year relationship a couple of months ago. No hard feelings, still friends. It’s easier that way :)
You both need a time off, stop or make interactions really “rational and controlled”. It takes time to shift to different dynamic between you two.
Once you both (or at least one of you) get new partners, things will be more promising for a genuine friendship.
Otherwise, lingering feelings or “emotionally weak” days seriously risk ruining the relationship and make things permanently awkward.
source: my own experience. I am best friends with my ex. And lived the process myself.
No but not due to hostility. We just don’t talk anymore the way you don’t talk to some old friends anymore, ie just drifted apart. All my breakups have luckily been amicable.
I actually ended a relationship recently. And it depends on the circumstances of the relationship ending.
For me I ain’t going to even breath her way after what she did to me and my family. So safe to say not going to be friends or even think about being friends with her.
As for any other exes most ended on a nice note, and if I saw them out and about I’d probably say hi but I most likely wouldn’t become “friends”
Im actually the kind to say when you break up move on. Still being friends is a recipe for many disasters. Especially once you’re in a long term or get married
Every time I’ve tried to be “friends” with an ex, we ended up in a awkward post-relationship-situationship that eventually lead to a bigger “break up” and us going no-contact.
Some yes, some no. For those I do stay friends with, I still take a break and go low/no contact with them for a while before resuming friendship. I need it to draw a line, so to speak, between the old relationship and friendship.
I’ve also had guys want to “remain friends” while they really meant hookup buddy. A break helps suss out those who are disingenuous with their stated intentions.
