• RBWells@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    2
    ·
    28 days ago

    I have found lots of guys don’t want to date anyone as tall or taller than them (or one guy who fetishized it, which was so not better) it’s certainly not just women driving this preference.

    But can’t say that being tall as a lady has ever really kept me from finding partners, and the short guys I know in real life also do fine, so I think this is usually more of a weak preference not a criteria.

      • RBWells@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        27 days ago

        It’s funny though - a guy my size is still stronger than me and guys shorter than me often still outmass me and are stronger than me, it’s strange that it’s so hyperfocused on height.

        Husband is my height but outweighs me by 50-60lb and can lift 2x what I can on my best day. I’m literally smaller and weaker, lol, despite being neither small nor weak.

  • AItoothbrush@lemmy.zip
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    12
    ·
    1 month ago

    My gf is shorter than me by a a few centimeters(maybe like an inch for you americans) but she wears heels so she seems taller and thats a postitive if you ask me.

      • AItoothbrush@lemmy.zip
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        1 month ago

        Yeah but i think its a two sided thing as it usually is in relationships. Ive seen so many dms of people falling apart cause “when she wears heels shes infringing on my masculinity” or whatever. If you have the confidence and she doesnt care about it(which taller women usually dont cause its not like theyre gonna find someone whos 220cm) then it will work. If youre like “oh my crush is taller than me, i have no chance” youre setting yourself up for failiure. Also while i know this isnt the best advice but if youre short short than maybe try working out in a gym and becoming fit cause then you can get an extra factor that they might like you for.

    • Tonava@sopuli.xyz
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      8
      ·
      1 month ago

      Hey I am ugly and autistic, and still have been in a long-term relationship for years. Some people just are into it

      • peoplebeproblems@midwest.social
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        7
        ·
        1 month ago

        I was married for 12 years.

        I made a mistake with that, so yeah. Kinda fucked myself over with it. Didnt actually start learning Bout the 'tism part until recently

  • e8d79@discuss.tchncs.de
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    50
    arrow-down
    2
    ·
    1 month ago

    If this bunny can date a girl bunny four times its size, you can date a woman a few centimeters taller.

  • ma1w4re@lemmy.zip
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    10
    ·
    1 month ago

    Same. 2m tall and get 0 sweethearts. Therapy wasn’t much help with anxiety caused by this. It is really painful, knowing that I’ll be forever alone. Contemplating taking an easy way out since September.

    • Eq0@literature.cafe
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      14
      ·
      1 month ago

      My partner is almost 2m tall. The have often complained that their size easily scares people off. I’m sorry about the anxiety. It sucks.

      I believe the world is better with you in it. If you want to chat, I’m available.

  • Helix8o8@lemy.lol
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    8
    arrow-down
    4
    ·
    1 month ago

    Yaa lotta guys get the rough end of the stick. I feel. I’ve been trying for roughly a decade to flip the tables. Sick of the “female specimens” nonsense.

      • AnarchoEngineer@lemmy.dbzer0.com
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        8
        arrow-down
        1
        ·
        1 month ago

        I’m not sure it’s really spooning if she can’t bend at the hips because the end of my back is far below them and basically at the height of her knees. Not sure having to lay down completely straight is a comfortable position lol

        I suppose a short girl could spoon me traditionally if she wants to be facing my lower back but that’s not really what I want either

        • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          8
          ·
          1 month ago

          It’s called jetpacking

          What I do it put my knees fully into their knees and wrap my torso around their butt, arms around their waist/low chest. I only reach half way up their back (I’m smol) but they love having my head rest against the middle of their back.

        • Eq0@literature.cafe
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          14
          ·
          edit-2
          1 month ago

          When I spoon my partner, we match hips and my face is somewhere between their shoulder blades

          • AnarchoEngineer@lemmy.dbzer0.com
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            2
            ·
            1 month ago

            Okay I can’t say I wouldn’t like but I guess I really just wish someone much larger than me would cuddle with me so that I could feel small I guess or like protected? Idk it’s hard to explain