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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • I agree that: SaaS = UaaP (User as a Product). Most importantly, AI is powerful and here to stay and if it’s completely controlled by the rich and powerful, then the rest of us are majorly screwed.

    Small models, local models, models that anybody can deploy and control the way they see fit, PUBLIC models not controlled by the rich and powerful - these will be crucial if we’re going to avoid the worst case situation.

    IMHO it’s better to start downloading and playing with local quantized LLMs (i barely know what i’m talking about here, i admit, but bear with me - i’m just trying to add something useful to the discussion), it’s better to start taking hold of the tech and tinkering, like we did with cars when they were new, and planes, and computers, and internet … so that hopefully there will be alternatives to the privately controlled rich-and-powerful-corpo models.




  • This is how I see it too. It helps to develop the habit of having your own project or interests in mind which you can turn your mind towards whenever you sense yourself getting drawn into the drama. For example, I’m writing a novel; during breaks/pauses/time off, any attention that I give to the silly dramas and childish behavior at work takes energy and focus away from my novel. Whatever your hobbies or off-work interests are, nurture a habit of focusing on them at will. (that’s not to say let people treat you badly, by the way. I just mean it’s a way to tune out the noise).


  • I’m not sure if you want people to reply or if you prefer them not to, but i’ll go ahead and reply and you can ignore it if you want. Your experience brings back a lot of memories and old emotions for me … I’m much older than you but even now i’m totally at sea about why nobody in my family ever wanted to know anything about my life … it’s weird. Anyway, that’s just to say “yeah, family can be rough.” Here’s how i finally set it aside and moved on. It might sound silly but it worked for me. I see it as a garden. My family are like a few small cactus plants here and there. In my twenties i lived in that patch of desert and pretty regularly tried to reach out to family, only to get stuck by a cactus needle. oh well. Drinking too much didn’t help either. Things started to change when i started to move away and grow my own garden. I found some people and communities who needed some of what i had to offer (writing skills, editing skills, kindness, sensitivity …) and i offered it. Maybe something like your experience with Rimu and that fediverse ecosystem you mention. Over time relationships developed; nothing amazing, just nice working relationships, a few light friendships - no soulmates or deep stuff, but that’s fine with me now. I found myself spending more and more time in this new patch of garden taht was growing around me. Stayed sober, positive, aware of people’s needs and how i could play a small role in helping others get along. Eventually that garden become where i live now. the cactus is over there towards the outskirts of my garden. That’s fine. I have no hard feelings towards the cactus. They’re just doing their thing, and i have plenty of other plants in my garden. Ok, sorry if that sounds too silly, but it’s a metaphor that works for me. Good luck!!







  • The only time i tried online dating apps to the point of actually talking to another human i met a young woman and we exchanged a few messages then arranged a phone call. On the phone she wouldn’t stop talking. It was pretty amazing, this flood of words pouring from her. I supposed it was because she was nervous, but still - being pretty pessimistic about the whole online dating thing to begin with - figured this would never work out because her non-stop talking was starting to weird me out a little. Not in a terrible way, just a little.

    Anyway, she was going on and on about her job but was carefully avoiding any details that might identify where she worked, i guess so as to stay safe by not revealing too many personal details to a stranger. Somehow, though, I figured it out. She told me what area of the city she lived in, and i got enough details about the kind of work she did that i said something like: “Oh, you work at the Goodwill on blahblah street” and then there was dead silence. The flood of words stopped. We hung up soon after that. I felt really cool about guessing her workplace, like a detective, thinking i’d impressed her with my mind, but it wasn’t until years later that it dawned on me that i’d weirded her out even more than she weirded me out. A double oblivious weird out.