• vacuumflower@lemmy.sdf.org
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    6 days ago

    The experience of much of my life, until I learned that you can forget shame and look at their shoulders and hands and neck and hair, and that’d be both socially acceptable and pleasant. I thought non-autistic people learn this before puberty.

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      6 days ago

      I don’t necessarily plan to look at their bits, it’s just the result of a glance in a random direction.

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        6 days ago

        Exactly. While you should plan to look at bits no less aesthetically pleasing, but with no danger involved whatsoever.