• OldChicoAle@lemmy.world
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    It’s supposed to be 3x pay checks right?

    I live paycheck to paycheck so someone better do the proposing to me

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      The idea that you’re “supposed” to spend $X on a ring is absurd. Are you getting engaged to show off your wealth or to commit to a relationship? What does spending excessive amounts of money on a trinket have anything to do with the latter?

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        That advice was likely a holdover from the time when wedding rings were essentially insurance for the wife if her husband died suddenly - sell the ring and be able to live for a while on that money while you search for a new husband.

        Now that women are, y’know, allowed to work for a living rather than being forced into homemakers, it makes a lot less sense for the wedding band to be outside of one’s means to purchase.

        I just tell people to buy what looks nice to them and is in budget. My wife has a gold band with some inscribed decorations, and I have a band of silver and inlayed meteorite. They were both under $1000. No need for flawless diamonds, rare stones or precious metals. We’re happy.

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        I think society cares more about the cost of the ring than my partner and me. Outside of joking, I’d spend a lot on a ring for my lover. I mean we both owe the mortgage after we marry right? It all evens out eventually.