• kboos1@lemmy.world
    26·
    12 days ago

    My wife and I call it decompressing, it’s not about relaxing the body, it’s about spacing out and doing something that requires zero brain power. I’m pretty sure almost everyone does it in some form or another, some just get to start earlier in the day, others just seem to already be on autopilot all day anyway and it extends to their bed time. It’s not a neuro divergent thing

    • qarbone@lemmy.worldEnglish
      6·
      12 days ago

      It’s like some people forget they are also just people and all people do things. Not everything they do is related to autism.

    • korazail@lemmy.myserv.oneEnglish
      3·
      12 days ago

      5:30-6am, wake up and become competent.

      6-8am - get the kids moving, make multiple breakfasts because they all want something different (including SO), get family prepared to travel, etc.

      8am - start work.

      3-4pm - collect some kids from school, sit in line feeling like you’re the worst because you’re not #1 in line for pickup, but you don’t think being there an hour early is reasonable.

      5pm - end “work day”, begin “evening” and figure out what’s for dinner (we planned this weekly, so it’s not too hard) then make it.

      7pm - bedtime ritual starts. deal with ensuing tantrums because “I don’t want to brush my teeth” or “I’m in the middle of this activity” or “why do I have to read?!”.

      8:30-9pm - kids are in bed. finally.

      9:30-5:30 - MY FUCKING TIME. 8 hours where the rest of the family is asleep and I get to manage myself… poorly. I need 5h, so bedtime before 12:30 is acceptable. Ignoring rounding errors, 10pm-12pm is for me. ignore it at your peril.

    • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works
      3·
      11 days ago

      There’s not really settled science here. I can relate to that a bit but I’m not diagnosed as neurodivergent or anything. Also I sort of grew out of this as I got older. I dont have trouble sleeping almost at all anymore but it used to be a big struggle.

      • Alaknár@sopuli.xyzEnglish
        3·
        11 days ago

        I think this is not “having trouble sleeping”, this is “having trouble going to bed”.

        The way it works with me is that I just need some “me” time after a day of activities. Normally I get back home around 5-6 PM, so I do some chores and then have 2-4 hours for myself. If there are other activities - or more chores - forcing me to start the “me” time later, then I won’t just skip it, I will still sit the 2-4 hours at my PC, I’ll just do it at the cost of my regular sleep time, and go to bed at 2AM instead of at midnight, for example.

        • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works
          2·
          9 days ago

          I came back to say I realized that I also started doing my “me” time in the early morning if I was really tired early the last night. When I was younger I would make myself stay up and play games or watch TV or else I’d be frustrated I wasted my night by sleeping. I really like being up before anyone else in the house and hanging out that way too now.

        • Rekorse@sh.itjust.works
          2·
          11 days ago

          Oh trust me, I know how it works I just put it all under “trouble sleeping.” Its a bad cycle to get into, getting more and more tired everyday. I honestly think I was just addicted to TV/computers and didnt know how to mentally deal with the urges. Perspective is incredibly powerful when it comes to mental state, but also habits are as well.

          I will say I value sleep a lot more now. I used to treat it as a nuisance that didnt benefit me much, but ive grown to understand how important it is, along with what I eat. Perhaps despising sleep is not a healthy thing.

    • AdrianTheFrog@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      12 days ago

      I have ADHD but not autism and I do this. It’s basically normal ADHD executive dysfunction I think, for me at least

  • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    12 days ago

    “I’m tired but also easily overstimulated” is practically the diagnosis code for autism in young people.

    Also a great pipeline to misuse of depressants. One is fully Lego-pilled after coming out of rehab, because it gives him an outlet for all that restless energy the drinking had flattened out.