Is it a common thing for ADHD or au/ADHD people to be weird with names?

For example, I don’t like my name. I don’t really like when people say it either. I also rarely call other people by name unless I’m absolutely sure I know it, because getting it wrong is terrifying. I much prefer “man, bud, hey you”.

People tell me its because I’m selfish and don’t care about others, because I can remember every year that certain albums were released from certain bands, but I can’t remember my neighbors name who talks to me maybe once every 3 months or the person I just met 5 minutes ago.

There’s also those super friendly outgoing people that say your name like 5 times in a sentence, which kind of creeps me out. I know thats a salesman tactic too.

  • hactar42@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    6 days ago

    I definitely wouldn’t say it is selfish by any stretch of the imagination. But I can see how someone would get offended if you forgot theirs.

    I’m horrible with names too. I’m just up front with people about it. If anyone gives me a hard time I tell them I’m face blind. That usually ends the discussion or them trying to give me tips.

    I agree saying someone’s name over and over feels creepy. I know why they do it, but it comes off super unauthentic.

    I’m fine with my own name, but I have a very common name that is always shortened. For some reason it makes me want to crawl out of my skin when someone says the shortened version with my last name.

    I can’t say if it’s a common ADHD thing. But you can add one more ADHD (probably somewhere on the spectrum) person who is in agreement with you.

    • bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.worksOPEnglish
      9·
      6 days ago

      The funny thing is I’m excellent with faces! Even if its someone I hadn’t seen for 15 years, or an actor from a movie I saw in the 90s, I can tell it’s them if I see them agajn. Just can’t do the names!

      Thanks for your comment

      • notwhoyouthink@lemmy.zipEnglish
        6·
        6 days ago

        Exactly the same here. I will remember a face, even a voice, for ever. A name…forgotten almost by the time it’s been said.

        Idk what it is for me, a name is just another word that I simply cannot tie to a person.