Is it a common thing for ADHD or au/ADHD people to be weird with names?
For example, I don’t like my name. I don’t really like when people say it either. I also rarely call other people by name unless I’m absolutely sure I know it, because getting it wrong is terrifying. I much prefer “man, bud, hey you”.
People tell me its because I’m selfish and don’t care about others, because I can remember every year that certain albums were released from certain bands, but I can’t remember my neighbors name who talks to me maybe once every 3 months or the person I just met 5 minutes ago.
There’s also those super friendly outgoing people that say your name like 5 times in a sentence, which kind of creeps me out. I know thats a salesman tactic too.
Same thing with me remembering names.
If I meet someone new, and they tell me their name, 95% chance I’ve forgotten it within seconds. It gets awkward after a while, so often I ask them what their surname is, then go look them up on say LinkedIn (or in the past - Facebook.)
Great with faces. But I even forget the names of super famous actors and musicians. Then I forget the name of a film they’ve been in, so I have to ask my wife.
My brain then has to go through this process of where I describe a film that the actor was in, and or the name of the character.
Or forget the film name, but know the character’s name.
E.g. Me - “Err Severus Snape”.
Wife - “you mean Alan Rickman”
Me - “Yeah, but he’s a terrorist, who’s taken over a skyscraper.”
Wife - “Die Hard”
Me - “But not Alan Rickman’s character. The main guy”
Wife - “Bruce Willis?”
Me - “OMG yes, Bruce Willis, how did I forget his name!”
It’s also the names of places I’ve visited as well. Might have been there 100 times, but it’ll just drop out of my memory at random.
“What’s the name of the place where we met all those dogs. Has a Waterfall. Might have been during summer?”
I hate it. Could describe every detail of someone or a place. Names - almost never remember.