Is it a common thing for ADHD or au/ADHD people to be weird with names?
For example, I don’t like my name. I don’t really like when people say it either. I also rarely call other people by name unless I’m absolutely sure I know it, because getting it wrong is terrifying. I much prefer “man, bud, hey you”.
People tell me its because I’m selfish and don’t care about others, because I can remember every year that certain albums were released from certain bands, but I can’t remember my neighbors name who talks to me maybe once every 3 months or the person I just met 5 minutes ago.
There’s also those super friendly outgoing people that say your name like 5 times in a sentence, which kind of creeps me out. I know thats a salesman tactic too.
Yeah, I’m AuDHD, and I don’t use names except when I’m trying to get someone’s attention. That’s even been with my partners. It just feels weird to insert their name when talking to them. But also with new people it always takes me a few times hearing it to remember though I remember faces almost immediately and indefinitely. Words in general I have trouble with because it’s not how my brain organizes information.
As for my own name, as a trans person I was able to pick my own, so I now like it, but I didn’t like my old name. Not sure if that was related to gender or neurodivergence issues, though.