• ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works
    4·
    10 days ago

    We both work from home. We have neither excuses nor anyone to blame.

    We’re just the third panel twice in a standoff with the dishes.

    • DigitalAudio@sopuli.xyz
      3·
      10 days ago

      We just have the rule that whoever cooks doesn’t wash. I hate cooking because I hate getting my hands sticky, my wife hates washing the dishes because she always forgets the corners and we end up rewashing anyway.

      It’s perfect harmony. Whenever she doesn’t want to cook, I cook, and she then procrastinates washing as long as she wants because it is her responsibility and we both know it.

      We basically never fight, but cooking and washing has never been a point of tension in this household lol.

  • Harvey656@lemmy.world
    8·
    11 days ago

    Uh, I do the dishes and the gaming and the laundry and vacuum and…

    But she’s hot and makes more money, so its all good.

  • WanderingThoughts@europe.pub
    15·
    11 days ago

    My wife goes into complete reading trance when she gets her hands on a new novel. Nothing will get done until that book is finished. Any response will be delayed until the next chapter.

    • baguettefish@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
      4·
      11 days ago

      I have learned to stop anywhere in a book and it helps a lot with chores. My condolences to your wife for her addiction.

  • HubertManne@piefed.socialEnglish
    3·
    11 days ago

    My wife says im pretty good with these things over other guys shes known. My main thing is hey if im doing dishes or laundry its because it needs to be done and other things I might do get pushed down. Im unemployed right now though so not much of an issue of having time.

  • underscores@lemmy.zipEnglish
    291·
    11 days ago

    I think one of the issues couples have with cleaning is that everyone has different schedules and approaches

    I never clean during weekdays, sorry but work fucks me up and when I come home I want all relaxation

    When the weekend starts after my Saturday morning I’ll go on a quick cleaning binge, and then Sunday night I do another clean binge and repeat

    • Christian@lemmy.mlEnglish
      3·
      11 days ago

      I always found it overwhelming to get started on big messes, so cleaning everything up immediately would get around my executive dysfunction. When I got in a relationship with someone whose approach was to be a human hurricane and then deep clean every once in a while it was a culture shock and it took years of me being a bad partner to become more responsible. I didn’t really understand the executive dysfunction so I self-loathed over it.

    • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
      2·
      11 days ago

      Same. If it’s something I can just rinse or wipe down I’ll do it now but if it’s going to require elbow grease it will keep til Saturday (or soak til tomorrow when it will be rinse and wipeable). Saturdays are for cleaning. Every few weeks I take a Monday so I can deep clean without regret.

    • aln@lemmy.world
      42·
      11 days ago

      Spend two hours of your precious weekend cleaning or 15 minutes once a day so it stays clean throughout the week.

      Hmmm decisions decisions.

      • lightnsfw@reddthat.com
        2·
        11 days ago

        15 minutes on a weeknight is like 1/8th of the time I have to myself. Two hours of the weekend is a much smaller chunk

    • telllos@lemmy.world
      26·
      11 days ago

      I think, there are some things that can’t “wait”, dishes, always after meal. I never want to arrive in my kitchen and it’s full of dirty dishes.

    • tias@discuss.tchncs.de
      121·
      11 days ago

      The issue is people assume their way is the only right way and when someone does it differently they interpret it as lazy or malicious, rather than responding with humility and trying to find out how their partner thinks.

  • SinningStromgald@lemmy.world
    5·
    11 days ago

    The opposite is normally true for my SO and I. They will still accuse me of making the mess but once I sort things into piles and show the mess is from them they are always very surprised.