Either works for either, really. I’ve masked my weirdness enough to have moderate luck in the short term on path 1, I’ve had luck scouring for real weirdos on path 2. Both take effort.
For a long term spouse, I still think the middle path is best. I wouldn’t have been happy long term with the normies on path 1, and the certified freaks on path 2 wouldn’t have been healthy long term either. You wanna hit that sweet spot where you roughly have your shit together, but you’re not dulling your shine much.
Either works for either, really. I’ve masked my weirdness enough to have moderate luck in the short term on path 1, I’ve had luck scouring for real weirdos on path 2. Both take effort.
For a long term spouse, I still think the middle path is best. I wouldn’t have been happy long term with the normies on path 1, and the certified freaks on path 2 wouldn’t have been healthy long term either. You wanna hit that sweet spot where you roughly have your shit together, but you’re not dulling your shine much.