There is a difference between hate and blame. It’s perfectly reasonable to hate someone for trauma they inflicted in a way they can’t constructively be blamed for. Hatred is a way to create psychological and physical distance so the trauma and accompanying schemas can heal, or at least not be triggered as often. Something has to prevent your love for your parents from getting you in harm’s way time and time again. And expressing hatred can help process it, as you’ve helped me do just now.
Because you’re right, I did muddy that difference in my mind while writing the comment. It’s not that they should have been leftists, but that they should have been leftists.
There is a difference between hate and blame. It’s perfectly reasonable to hate someone for trauma they inflicted in a way they can’t constructively be blamed for. Hatred is a way to create psychological and physical distance so the trauma and accompanying schemas can heal, or at least not be triggered as often. Something has to prevent your love for your parents from getting you in harm’s way time and time again. And expressing hatred can help process it, as you’ve helped me do just now.
Because you’re right, I did muddy that difference in my mind while writing the comment. It’s not that they should have been leftists, but that they should have been leftists.