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But I like being a lurker 😟
I still remember this epic comment from @cm0002@lemmy.world. It’s funny because cm0002 is like one of the most active posters I see around.
Why do I too remember that post and the comment, huh, I might be spending a lot of time here
They really upped their game!
I don’t think making feud posts is contributing.
It’s ok to be a lurker. Lurkers, I’m happy you’re here with us.
And we’re here for you.
Hey this user isn’t a lurker!! They’re a big fat phony!!!
- Presses reply
- Types an insightful comment
- Looks at it. There’s something wrong with it. He just doesn’t know what.
- Erases it. Starts over.
- *Still doesn’t feel right *
- Hits cancel, discards the comment, and goes back to doom scrolling.
I worry the same way, but mostly just when I’m commenting on something hurtful. Like if a commenter is being agonizingly wrong about something really important, spreading lies, you know the kind. I’ll get worked up and start writing a comment, but realize that any point I make can be nitpicked and invalidated even if it’s broadly correct. So I don’t post those comments.
But when it’s not in response to someone being inflammatory, I feel better about just doing my best with what I write. If someone has a correction, well that’s a good thing! I’ll acknowledge it and edit my comment to include the better info I’m given. I can hope that the people reading it don’t see that I was wrong on one point and decide I’m completely wrong because I try to interact respectfully.
>writes three paragraph comment
>edits comment for 10 minutes to make it as succinct as possible
>realizes it has nothing to do with parent comment
>deletes comment
Back on reddit, a good half of the comments I would have left got deleted as soon as I posted them. Lemmy has forced me to make sure I’ve said something relevant, because if I leave a comment and then delete it, everyone gets to know that I did that, and that makes me feel even worse than saying something slightly off topic
I mean, if it is not related to a specific “parent comment”, you could simply post it as a 1st rank comment to the post instead?
I felt this in my bones.
Same, but I cannot even get to the reply phase. Also I am bad at commenting/posting anything good.
I figure that there are plenty of other people that can tell me what’s wrong with my comment, so just post it and let others work for you for free.
Frequent lurker here, I just have such a hard time getting my thoughts out into words that’s relevant to a conversation. Add in an irrational amount of aversion to negative feedback (real or perceived) and it just feels better to just keep scrolling.
One day I’ll get better at this, it’s not easy when my socializing experience has been dominated with negativity both online and offline.
The thing is, I feel like many people just add whatever they think and want to say to a conversation no matter how relevant or irrelevant it is to the current situation. In the end, I feel like most people on here are civil enough to not be mean-spirited towards one another unless they’re talking to bigots and stuff.
I struggle with this quite often too - especially when it comes to topics that can be quite divide and polarising - but I always feel good once I do step out of my comfort zone and post away. There’s usually bound to be at least a couple people with whom your comment resonates with. Give it a try maybe - you’d be surprised how well it can go :)
I feel you. I delete like half the comments I post and want to delete another half of what’s left before I do, for the same sounding reasons.
I don’t think people will be a dick to you on here, and if they are it won’t be well received by anyone else.
If it helps, people seem to be a lot more open to questions and discussion here than on sites like reddit. Its pretty refreshing.
lurks lurkishly
lurking intensifies
Walking lurkishly down the stairs
How decedent
HELLO NOT LURKING WE JUST HAVE NOTHING USEFUL TO CONTRIBUTE THANKS
I DON’T LIKE POSTING MUCH BECAUSE I AM TRASH
You both should come join us in shitposting. One of us!
HI INFORMATIVE AND INSIGHTFUL RESPONSE
I’m an introvert, leave me alone.
… Nice.
Countries with the first-past-the-post electoral system perform similarly to autocracies when it comes to healthcare performance.
No
>2 year old account
>2 posts, 4 comments
One quarter of this user’s comment history is them explicitly declining to stop lurking lmao
Honestly, that’s kind of big dick energy
Gotcha
cute, gecko? lizard? what species?
Now this, I like
Yeahhhhhhh, I struggle with that a bit because I feel like anything I have to say isn’t worth saying
Honestly same, even this replay I hesitated before sending.
You should upload more of your photography stuff!
That is something I’d love to do! I just haven’t gone out in a while to take any pictures.
Look at this useless comment here smh
/s ;-)
my fears have come to fruition 😭😭😭
even just voting helps.
Updoots and downdoots are chill, but combining letters is scary!
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incoherent screaming
Careful, you can get banned for voting “wrong” too
Banned from where? Lemmy is a decentralised network.
Banned from entire communities or instances, similar to the other people in the thread who are saying that’s why they don’t comment. Some people are very sensitive about getting downvotes.
Half the time I post a comment trying to contribute in some way but get downvotes so I’m scared to post any comments.
Additionally, I never post news articles I see because if the content of the news is bad (eg a news article about something bad google is doing), Ive seen others and myself get downvotes
Counterpoint: By posting things that get downvoted, you still contributed and added to the discussion by exposing people to a viewpoint divergent from the ones they perceive normaly.
Or your contributions are just shit takes. That could be the case too. /s
Or your contributions are just shit takes. That could be the case too. /s
This, but without a /s
Sometimes you’re wrong, sometimes you’re talking to assholes.
It’s okay, you do already much more than most of us working on Photon
I just wanted to let you know there is an option in your settings so you don’t see upvotes or downvotes.
Lemmy (AFAIK) doesn’t even show you your total upvotes (karma… whatever it’s called) by default either. None of these imaginary points fucking matter.
So why don’t you do yourself a favor and uncheck these boxes and not give a fuck what others think about your comment.
I know I have.
(Lemmy is rad as fuck)
I absolutely understand that regarding political/news communities, I bet your experience is very different in entertainment/hobbies communities
Beehaw.org has disabled the down vote button/doesn’t federate down votes. So you could try posting over there, it’s pretty great
profile karma doesnt matter here unless you use mbin or piefed, I think even then its only if you have an account there? (not sure about that one) Its not like reddit where more karma boosts posts/comments
Ladies and gentlemen… we got em.
