People keep telling me that dating today is a war zone, facing all kinds of challenges.

Dating apps don’t seem to be directly trying to help solve the problem as much as generate revenue. In fact, they are very directly motivated to not make great long term matches.

Some people seem think that just getting out there and hoping for the best is the answer. Maybe that’s true, but it’s still very random. I was wondering about a hypothetical alternative:

What if you could go to an agency of some kind get rated through a thorough evaluation process? Would that be helpful ? It’s not perfect, and many things are hard to measure. But maybe it’s a less random starting point and can escape the exclusively money driven approach of dating apps.

  • Soup@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 month ago

    Love is not a logical thing and applying such rigidity is not a statistically very effective approach. It’s a social thing, dating, and you kinda need to play the game. The upside is that it’s a fun game if you play it right. It is random, and that’s just part of it. I would argue that the randomness is actually one of the main reasons it can be so enjoyable.

    Many of the people who might call it a “warzone” are frustrated men, who are mad that women are putting up with less bullshit these days, and those same women who are dealing with a large amount of those entitled, aforementioned men.

    • Tracked@sopuli.xyzEnglish
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      1 month ago

      I swear why everyone recommend this? It doesn’t gives you the certain that you’ll meet people that you wanna date plus in my case there’s nothing to do that I like in my zone. Is not a solution.

      • HelixDab2@lemm.eeEnglish
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        1 month ago

        Sure. You just need to find cheap hobbies, like hiking (depending on where you live).

          • Modva@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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            26 days ago

            Yeah, that would really ruin the dating outcome we’re kinda shooting for I feel.

          • HelixDab2@lemm.eeEnglish
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            26 days ago

            If that’s your dream, I won’t stop you.

            But there are groups that do hikes together. And typically murderers aren’t interested in audience participation.

            • Modva@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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              26 days ago

              When I was thinking through the challenge of entering dating, little did I realize that we’d soon be exchanging murderer dodging tips.

              Valuable knowledge no doubt but damn 😂