It’s how we have to communicate, as most cultures won’t allow us to be open with our emotions.
Y’all need actual friends.
No shit. Men, nor women, pretend to be sad, they pretend to be happy.
It’s very true trueeeee
When i had to take my dog to the emergency vet, I got on discord and posted about ten Star Trek memes in under five minutes. One of the guys asked if I was ok, that’s when i broke down and revealed the reason. I was basically looking for attention…
Well, that explains my shit post the other day
Edit: I’m so sorry, I had a disconnect from the first half of your comment. I apologize if this was insensitive, and I hope you are doing alright
No worries, we all deal with stress in our own ways.
If only this were an actual meme
Nah, i tell my bois all about it and they talk to me about it.
That’s nice. I’m trying to get there myself. It’s hard enough to be honest with yourself, let alone your buds.
It is hard on both accounts, yes.
And also: it’s okay to accept people who don’t want a deeper relationship. You can have different friendships at different levels.
I feel called out.
What else are you suppose to do?
Ask for help. Be vulnerable with the boys.
Cool, cool, cool…
Are there any other options tho?
Or go to therapy, or a 12 step program, or a support group, or a mens shed or call a crisis line.
But ignoring it and pretending it’ll go away on its own letting the pressure build until it explodes is MANLY unlike taking responsibility for your reactions.
If only that worked for me. I’ve been in a depressing place for 5 years, and I both opened up to my homies and brother… Crickets.
My wife keeps me sane and grounded.
I feel that, man. I’ve tried being open with friends and it just didn’t seem like it mattered much to them. I don’t have many close friends, almost none to be honest. But I have my wife and no matter what I always know she’s there for me, unfailingly.
The boys can’t do anything. They’re broke and hopeless too.
Sometimes just talking things out is meaningful on its own.
I’ll just post ‘mood’ worthy memes untill the problem is normalized to me long enough to stop making me feel things about it.
The inner machinations of my mind are an enigma…
I will just say, having gone through a real rough year, it’s not always black and white. I be vulnerable with the boys and ask for help, but I need time to process first, and to do it in the way I want and the time I want.
In the meantime, I am often sending memes for that small comfort of friendship while I process.
Lol, no. We’ll all just suffer quietly thanks.
Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way.
The time is gone, the song is over. Though I’d something more to say.
Yes. That’s the healthy option. …Not gonna do it.
Wallow in self pity?
I’m good with sending memes.
Well what else are we supposed to do? Open up about our problems and get ridiculed to oblivion?
Good for you, I wish I had those kinds of friends
I’ve heard of worse coping mechanisms.
you guys have homies?
All my homies dispersed after our lives became so painful and tiring that we had nothing to share anymore.
Men growing up never learn how to talk about their lives and wants and fears with each other, it’s always fake bravado, masculinity, “how can I make everyone laugh” and other increasingly desperate attempts to cling to the simple, happy days of childhood when there was less to worry about and every day was magical.
When the magic wanes, we’re left as people holding nothing. We don’t know how to laugh anymore. We don’t know how to make anyone else laugh anymore. We stop smiling. We stop going out of our way to even keep up appearances, and just fade into the background, and most of us like it that way. Because society broadly doesn’t know how to handle male emotional states that don’t follow stereotypes for cartoonish masculinity. So as men get older, we get more and more alone.
I literally have no clue what it feels like to have other men, related or not, to lean on and talk to. I’ve never had support from anyone outside of my partner, and cannot imagine how dark life is for men who don’t even have that. Yes, our world is unkind to men. It’s also unkind to women in a different way.
We can each change it, but it takes effort, emotional intelligence, and of course the time in the day that most of us don’t have once you have bills to pay and people to take care of.
And I don’t say this as some kind of whiny-ass teenage MGTOW redpill kid who is mad at women. I have studied sociology and neurology for decades, I have been a coach and trainer to young men, as well as women and families, I have taught self-defense, I’ve been in therapy, I’ve had substance abuse problems, i’ve kicked substance abuse problems. I’ve been religious and renounced it all. I’ve been a shut-in introverted gamer turned outgoing, public-speaking business leader. I’ve lived a few and speak from decades of just being and watching.
Your comment resonated with me. I wish I had more to contribute, but all I’ve got right now is: you don’t seem like such a mean cow.
No, that’s why I post my memes here.
We here for your memes homie.
What is a meme zar?
Often it’s when I’m most likely to. Sometimes you need a distraction, small comforts, and a reminder of feeling normal
Welll, yeah. You ever tried to tell someone how bad of a day you just had? They dgaf.
Friends are going to care if they’re actually friends.
You probably need better friends
Memes ARE a cope
