• vader8er@pawb.social
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      1 year ago

      This is such an insulting and frankly stupid take. Homophobia is not the work of self-hating gays, it’s just bigots being bigots. I’m sure that some closeted self-loathing gay folks do this kind of shit, but if you’re seriously suggesting that the only people who are willing to throw out homophobic slurs and violence towards gay people are other gay people then I don’t know what to say. Conservatives are hateful bigots to virtually every minority group on the planet, but only with homophobia are they accused of being the thing they’re being hateful towards. Why? I’ve never seen a racist accused of secretly being black, or a anti-semite being secretly Jewish, but apparently every homophobe is just a poor confused homosexual trying to throw of the scent.

      Speaking as a gay dude, please stop this victim-blaming bullshit.

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        You have to be right, of course, demographically speaking. There’s no way the amount of bigotry we see could come entirely from a fraction of a minority, as the person above you is implying.

        That said, it is difficult to reconcile that with a key feature of homophobic (and transphobic, etc.) rhetoric that is not present in racist beliefs: homosexuals are accused of choosing to be gay.

        Which, of course, is as absurd as accusing someone of choosing to be black. And yet we hear one of these constantly, and never the other.

        How is it even possible for someone to think that sexuality is a choice, unless they are constantly and actively “choosing” their own? That’s not a rhetorical question. I genuinely can’t make sense of it and that bothers me deeply.

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    This is PROOF that Cops PROTECT people and that GAYS are the Problem and NOT the people who LITERALLY MURDERED SOMEONE FOR BEING GAY AFTER THE COPS KNEW THIS WOULD HAPPEN BUT CHOSE TO IGNORE IT!

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    If your concern is how someone coped with trauma or how loudly they speak when recounting injustice and being ignored by authorities then you never truly cared about my husband.

    I don’t even want to know what this part is in response to.

  • Scary le Poo@beehaw.org
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    Jonathan Joss 15m

    Statement from Tristan Kern de Gonzales

    Husband of Jonathan Joss

    My husband Jonathan Joss and I were involved in a shooting while checking the mail at the site of our former home. That home was burned down after over two years of threats from people in the area who repeatedly told us they would set it on fire. We reported these threats to law enforcement multiple times and nothing was done.

    Throughout that time we were harassed regularly by individuals who made it clear they did not accept our relationship. Much of the harassment was openly homophobic.

    When we returned to the site to check our mail we discovered the skull of one of our dogs and its harness placed in clear view. This caused both of us severe emotional distress. We began yelling and crying in response to the pain of what we saw.

    While we were doing this a man approached us. He started yelling violent homophobic slurs at us. He then raised a gun from his lap and fired.

    Jonathan and I had no weapons. We were not threatening anyone. We were grieving. We were standing side by side. When the man fired Jonathan pushed me out of the way. He saved my life.

    Jonathan is my husband. He gave me more love in our time together than most people ever get. We were newlyweds. We picked Valentines Day. We were in the process of looking for a trailer and planning our future.

    He was murdered by someone who could not stand the sight of two men loving each other. I was with him when he passed. I told him how much he was loved.

    To everyone who supported him, his fans, his friends, know that he valued you deeply. He saw you as family.

    My focus now is on protecting Jonathan’s legacy and honoring the life we built together.

    If your concern is how someone coped with trauma or how loudly they speak when recounting injustice and being ignored by authorities then you never truly cared about my husband.

    Jonathan saved my life. I will carry that forward. I will protect what he built.

    Tristan Kern de Gonzales

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    i actively avoid texas whenever i have to drive cross country. i’ve gone as much as 4 hours out of my way. every time they threaten to secede i hope TO GOD they go through with it.

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    Meanwhile, Texas cops say no evidence of a hate crime.

    As if the whole country isn’t tacitly approving of this by embracing hate and apathy.

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    Have the assailants been arrested or revenged? Some good guy with a gun gonna kill these criminals?