That brings up another issue. A lot of people gaslight themselves about what happened to themselves and others, either because they’re so conditioned to not question authority, being told that’s just the way it is, and being put on trial in the court of public opinion (what were they wearing?), or simply understanding the odds are ever not in their favor. So they actually learn how to deny and deflect their own and others’ experiences, and protect abusers. Some may even have such deeply depressed repressed memories simply because the experience was so traumatic.