Making something so routine that you don’t think about it. Like getting ready for work. Build it into your life. Make it a distraction. Get rid of start up barriers that make it difficult to get started. Make it to where you don’t expect to reach the goal. Put all the distractions together so you can switch between them seamlessly. Lean in to the ADHD. Make it so that once you reach your goal your not only surprised but also kinda sad it’s over.

On another note imo someone who makes plans that fall apart at the first hiccup and don’t accommodate the people involved isn’t someone who is good at making plans. Just someone that has very rigid expectations.

Also your partner maybe experiencing some undiagnosed ADHD symptoms themselves. Where by they become more sensitive to ADHD behaviors that they themselves combat with a toxic inner voice. ADHD can be expressed in many ways and not always the cosmonaut - spacey variety. For instance having a very rigid routine in high stimulus activities like shopping where you’re focus is being exploited by advertising and marketing.

The ideal situation shouldn’t be that you are made to cope in such a way that you operate as a normal person. The ideal should be that you have learned something about yourself that can allow you and your partner to organize your lives more effectively with less friction.

It sounds like your partner maybe suffering from anxiety issues. As a adhd’r myself I have to constantly defend my need to just let me do things the way I want. Like give me a goal and let me mess up a bit. Just need the space and time to figure out how I am going to do something my own way cause my experience isn’t typical and it becomes unintuitive for passerby who are trying to facilitate my progress. As a musician I also have become acutely sensitive to how long it takes me to learn an pickup new skills and how my alternative methods often allow me to flourish while traditional methods often hinder me.

The most recent episode of Last Week Tonight talks about it https://youtu.be/Y93ljB7sfco

Was it felony murder or real murder tho?

Frets on fire tutorial

It’s a awesome drawing. Confident lines. Strong proportions. However, the contrast in detail of the skin around the smile lines are skewing the age of the bottom of the face or maybe suggest creeply over expressed or that it is emphasized for some other reason.

Ready to eat quick food that is relatively healthy. Bananas, carrots, celery, rice cakes, chewing gum, water. Short circuit the junk snacks with fruits and veggies that are more easily accessed or at least as easy. I also had premade meals delivered. Make it to where it’s a hassle to get access to unhealthy food. Hard to go through the trouble to get the junk food when the healthy stuff is readily available.

Relevant video: https://youtu.be/2X1iwLqM2t0

Reminds me of this post: https://lemmy.world/post/34611501

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The second season is even better

Old but if you haven’t seen Making a Murderer you should give it a watch.

Well, by “working” I mean providing a framework for all of its citizens to pursue prosperity and happiness. “Working/success” would mean that none of the atrocities were able to happen, and different leaders would have been selected.

It reminds me of how musical artists would let people vote on their next venue, and 4chan would find ways to make it a school for the deaf, or the inception of Boaty McBoatface.

I wonder if the discourse here and elsewhere suffers from the perspectives used to approach the topic initially. Asking the question of “how do we get this system to work,” rather than just submitting to the failed outcomes of well-known examples. Most people don’t want to create a system by which one or a small group of people can prosper at the detriment of the larger community. I think understanding how these systems affect their populations on a granular level is the only way we can find/create the best system.

What makes you think this?

This is a wonderful piece of art. Thank you for sharing.