I didn’t feel like that at all when I turned 30, but I also worked out and ate healthy. It’s only within the past two years I have started feeling like shit (in my mid 30s now) and ironically, I have both eaten like shit and not exercised at all within that period as well due to intense work pressure and stress.

Mind your diet and get back into an exercise routine. Doesn’t have to be something crazy. My spouse and I have started going on long walks and we have substituted our diet with healthier alternatives and the results have been very quick despite us only having been at it for about 2 weeks at this point.

We sleep better at night, we feel more energized. I generally feel my body is growing stronger, my skin is clearing up, my anxiety is slowly lessening, the aches and pains I feel now are far more related to exhaustion from walking than the pain of not moving my extremities enough.

In six months time, I hope most of the daily aches I have dealt with the last few years will be gone. Some will probably stick around because aging is happening, but no need to feel like 90 when you’re not even 40 yet.

It should have more depth, but that isn’t always the case, haha. We all do it to some extent. There some topics I flat out refuse to discuss with 99% of people because most people can’t discuss these things without opting to black and white thinking. Then there are topics I refuse to discuss with people because I fall into black and white thinking and I don’t want to put that out into the world. We should definitely hold ourselves to a higher standard, but most of us are emotional beings about something and whatever that something is, will result in very silly behavior if we get in our feelings too much. The number of instances and users I have decided to block for this very reason is probably higher than on any other platform I have ever been on. Sometimes it’s because I find them to be the childish ones and other times it’s because I feel like I would become the childish one if I engage further.

One of the more disappointing things about growing up was when I realized that “adult” is an illusion and that all the adults I had looked up to as a kid, were pretty much just big babies doing their best in life while often not really knowing what the fuck they were doing. Cobble that with unresolved issues from childhood that has manifested in stunted growth in different areas and there you go.

We are all kids. The only thing that changes except out bodies, is that we gradually learn to deal with the challenges life throws at us so what is insane at 20 is not so insane at 30 and what is difficult at 30 is not that hard at 40 etc etc.

In some ways, it is a relief to know that there is no end stage. You are a kid for life and you learn for life.

I think my partner in that workshop got Møffe when we split. He seemed more attached to him while I was too busy contemplating my existence.

I think it’s an American thing, maybe? I don’t think I ever played the recorder in school. My only experiences with the recorder was as a toy instrument that you’d get from souvenir shops. I didn’t know the recorder was supposedly a serious instrument until my early adulthood. Always thought it was a joke toy pretending to be a flute. It was way below the kazoo in my mind.

I remember how in 6th grade my (i assume) well meaning teacher decided to have a theme week where we were to pair up, boy and girl and pretend to be a couple and figure out budgeting, finding rent prices for apartments and what kinds of jobs we could have.

That was the week I unlocked existential anxiety that never went away lol. Didn’t help that every adult in my life told me to not worry about it and that it would take many years before budgeting like an adult would be relevant for me.

There also weren’t any further classes about this type of stuff so I just walked around from age 12 and onward panicking about how I would fail at life because I was bad at math.

Weirdly enough I still remember that the boy I was paired up with insisted we should have a cat and that we should call it Møffe. I remember that our budget was very bad and full of holes and our teacher would come over from time to time. “What about the electric bill? What about the water and heating bill? Remember taxes.” Every time she would remind us of something we had overlooked or missed, it felt like my nervous system was being electrocuted.

Pretty hardcore to just throw this type of assignment at 12 year olds with no warning and then never speak of it again.

As an adult I am terrified of spending money on anything that isn’t food or bills. My boyfriend constantly has to remind me that we are financially safe because I feel like we could end up on the streets any moment. It’s not all a result of that one workshop, but it planted the seeds for that anxiety to grow and blossom into what it is today.

I think a budgeting workshop would be a great idea for older kids who are approaching adulthood and are more ready for it. But holy shit, don’t do that to actual children who can’t even grasp the concept of taxes and rent money yet.

The poster is being sarcastic. She’s got ADHD herself and is a very avid poster in the ADHD meme sub. The point of this post is that the guy in the screenshot is ignorant.

My friend, I am not remotely the sly hinty type. I am an elephant in a china shop if I decide to pursue a guy.

At the same time, I am the queen of obliviousness if a guy I deeply respect and like shows me any form of romantic attention, because I don’t believe that someone that amazing could ever like someone like me. Took my boyfriend a few months of sending literal love letters with romantic quotes and pressed flowers, a few visits to my apartment where we would just hang out and get to know each other and him telling me bluntly to my face after a few months that he had a crush on me before the hamster wheel started spinning in my head. The effort he put in to get to know me and to woo me was completely fucking alien to me because most of my romantic endeavors in the past had been me pulling teeth. So, I totally get the concept of being dumb as a brick when somebody likes you.

but don’t write us off just because we are a little awkward

My guy. I’m not talking about a “little” awkward. The example I gave was of a guy with debilitating social anxiety. When I said “so shy and awkward he couldn’t talk to a girl” I mean it literally. He did not talk to me. He barely looked at me. I walked 20 km to see him at his place (which is pretty fucking stupid, but very gracious of a then 17 year old girl who just wanted this random guy she had never met, to feel comfortable) and I sat there and held a one-sided conversation afloat for at least an hour while he was a potato across from me. He was not a bad guy, he just could not talk to a girl. Probably never had talked to a girl until I came by. I gave up eventually and walked all the way back. 20 km.

I have never written a guy off for being a little awkward. Ever. What I did do was to often put my own comforts, needs and emotional well being on hold for guys who didn’t bother to give anything back at all. I have dated shy, awkward and mentally ill guys. They weren’t great to me. At all. I did all the work all the time and if I ever asked for a crumb of affection I had to deal with tantrums about how they had social anxiety or depression or something else so my comforts didn’t matter because they had it worse and they came first and I had to be more mindful and patient with them.

Being a little shy and awkward is fine. I don’t mind that at all. I mind it when it becomes what defines a person and they feel entitled to make their issue someone else’s responsibility to carry for them.

Relationships are a two way street. You can be shy and awkward and even have social anxiety, but that is not up to a potential partner to fix or accommodate for you at the expense of their own mental and physical health. That is your burden to bear. In dating you cannot sit in silence and let the other person do all the work for you and then get offended if they move on from you. If you give them nothing, they won’t stick around. Even a doormat like me ended up not wanting to deal with that bs anymore and I was lucky enough to end up with someone who understands that you need to earn the other person’s affection and loyalty. It is not owed to you.

Yeah. People like to be victims. It gives you a out of jail free card to not work on yourself if the world is against you. Doesn’t matter how true or false that is. If you want to find an excuse to not try and to victimize yourself at the same time, there is no limit.

There is sort of a sad poetic irony to the guys who value money and looks over anything substantial because they will spend all their time and energy on appearing rich and alpha and then they will bitch and moan when they can’t find a girl who loves them for them.

And saddest of all: they literally can’t see that all the things they hate women for are their very own values in life, projected onto the opposite sex.

Yeah, if it gets to the point where the hair starts thinning that intensely, it’s better to just shave it off and bald is pretty awesome too! Don’t get me wrong. I was more so speaking from the vantage point of me and several of my female friends when we were teenagers and early 20s women. I’m neck deep into my 30s atm and at this point, looks matters very little. My boyfriend has very short hair and hasn’t worn band shirts for almost two decades but he’s still a total snack to me.

Where are you from? :D I’m Danish and here, being a long haired guy with band t-shirts mostly translates to “dude probably works in tech and is a massive nerd”

People should do what they are comfortable with, but yes, if a guy wants to attract women, this is definitely a way to get what he wants.

I was part of the alternative scene and I also thought the goth-boy aesthetic was very attractive. All the girls did. To me, the most attractive thing a man could do to his appearance was to let his hair grow long. Like past the shoulders long.

Didn’t have to put on make up and jewelry. Just have long hair and you could be fat or skinny, pretty or ugly. Didn’t fucking matter. I’d look. If Henry Cavill walked down the street next to a nerdy guy with long hair, I would look at the nerd everytime. If he wore band t-shirts and military boots, it was game over. Only way a guy could fuck it up for himself with me was if he started the nice guy routine or was so socially awkward he couldn’t talk to a girl. I have experienced both. The latter was a full date where the guy didn’t say a word to me once and I was the one who had walked 20 km to get to his place because he had social anxiety and couldn’t leave his home. Poor guy. I hope he’s doing better today.

Personally, I prefer to store files etc on external hard drives. It’s a mix of not liking how little control I feel I have over my files when they are being stored by a separate entity (if you can call it that), but also because as I become gradually more aware, I just find it harder and harder to be okay with the idea of having thousands of servers all over the world in datacenters standing there, running full time, nuking the environment, just so I can have my memes and vacation pictures etc accessible at all hours of the day and from any device I use.

I know it’s probably more complicated than that, and I also don’t judge what other people do, as we all pick our battles. I just can’t help but feeling weird about all this cloud-type shit that all the tech-psychos want us to use, become dependent on and charge us for. It just doesn’t feel right to me.

The most love story that ever storied.

I know this is windows, but I remember when I got my work-iPad and became acquainted with the cloud. When it “ran out of storage” and wanted me to pay for extra storage and I was like: why the fuck would I pay you for storing my files on your shady cloud? If anything, I was relieved that the “cloud was full” because that must mean that none of what is currently on my iPad is uploaded anywhere weird and shady. Right? Right? Lol. I’m glad that most of the shit stuck in the cloud are shitty memes I saved in images early, because im a friggin child. Barely anything important has been saved there. I still dunno how it works or why I should want it to save my shit.

It’s the same with how many people told me how I should get an iPhone after I got an iPad because it would make it so easy for me to fileshare and link everything up. How I should also get a Mac so I could file-sharing there and my reaction everytime was: why would I want all my devices linked, bro? That sounds like a potential safety hazard to me, but I’m a tech-retard so I don’t know anything. I just don’t find the idea of everything being linked up and gathered in the cloud to be particularly enticing or cute. I like my devices separate and I don’t mind if it’s a but inconvenient for me to fileshare.

Sometimes I don’t understand people nor why they think conveniences overrules personal safety and privacy. Are you sure you want every single thing you do on one device to be shared and saved on another? Are you SURE you want that? Because I’m not. It’s not even a matter of doing fishy stuff or not, it’s a matter of having control over where your information is stored and accessible and there’s no way in fucking hell I’d want my personal phone to be linked to my WORK iPad. Lol. Nobody needs see the diabetes-inducing shit my boyfriend and I send to one another everyday.

“No I love you moar💗😍”

“No you, cutie-poo❤️❤️❤️”

“No you times infinity😘”

Yes, we are pushing 40. No, we don’t plan on stopping being this gross.

I mean if I was in charge of government, I would probably be willing to take the gamble, but alas, I’m not and Mærsk and Novo Nordisk both use some of their money on “charity” work in Denmark where they set up funds that support the industry or they pay to build stuff like The Black Diamond which was Mærsk’s present to Denmark. Many think it’s super duper gracious of them and through my job, I have also benefitted from the Novo Nordisk fond. But others think that it shouldn’t be like this. They should pay their taxes and let it be up to the government what the money is spent on instead of doing this charity shit where they more or less pay for initiatives that benefits their own interests. In an ideal world, the latter would be how things were, but again, what can you do? If they decided to pull out of Denmark as punishment, those funds would probably disappear too. To me, it’s mafia behavior but I have been called out before for uttering such words about our gracious Mærsk xD especially back in the 2000s where the wider opinion was that we should be grateful and not greedy for them paying anything at all to the state. At least that was the opinion in the area where I lived at the time.

I was also being way too generous toward Mærsk. If I remember correctly, Mærsk pays somewhere around 2% tax. Apparently they paid 3,7% tax in 2022 and were praised for it haha. I don’t remember what Novo Nordisk pays in taxes, but my guess is they pay more than Mærsk but less than the lowest tax percent for poor people here.

In Denmark we have something called top tax where everyone over a certain income level are taxed a little over 50% of their income.

Unless, of course, you are a mega-rich corporation, then you pay 4% tax or less because you have the power to take your business elsewhere if you get offended and your 4% tax or less still contributes a pretty significant amount to our country, so no one dares to put pressure on you to contribute what you owe to society. 🫠

So it isn’t exactly perfect. Those who are rich enough get to do whatever they want even in a system that is otherwise built to support the collective.

It sometimes pisses me off to know how easily most of our issues could be solved if companies like Mærsk and Novo Nordisk paid one or two percent more in taxes. Not even close to what they actually owe, but just one or two percent more. It could be a fucking game changer for our healthcare and educational system.

I feel like the percentages should be higher in Denmark, but I don’t think people think about corporations getting to cheat the system when they are asked this question. They think about the well off civilians among us who already pay over half of their income in taxes and they will probably feel like it would be unfair to have to pay even more. At that point the thought would go to: why the fuck did I even get this degree, took on this responsibility and worked these hours if at the end of the day I have the same money after tax as a school teacher?

I can’t speak for all the other Nordic countries, though I suspect similar constellations there.

This legit made me choke on my laughter. So fucking true.

And then people go “jUsT wRitE iT dOwN”

Well, I do, bish, but I can never remember what notebook or piece of paper I wrote it on nor where I put it. I have found old password notes in the weirdest places, even digitally. In fucking Procreate on my iPad in a a weird folder I never use, quickly scribbled down in a file that I have not looked at for three years. Sometimes in the bottom of a bag that I put in the basement months ago, on a little water damaged poster it note. Other times in the back of a notebook, upside down AND written in invisible ink. No really. And I thought I was sooooo clever at the time too. -_-

So now I have a bullet journal I carry with me everywhere and I wrote down all the pin codes and passwords and whatever the fuck I have that I can remember down on a separate piece of paper that is in pocket in the back of the book so that when this journal is finished, I can put it in the next one. I hope this time it will work out longterm, lol.

Yeah, he is pretty great. A unicorn of a person, if I may be so humble. His students have described him as “too perfect”. I don’t disagree. I used to joke that he was the second coming of christ but instead of saving the world he decided to dedicate his life to saving my chaotic ass. I dont take it for granted.

As unromantic as it sounds, we agreed long ago that marriage wasn’t in the cards for us. So no rings, but we definitely are each other’s Precious ❤️