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  • SorryImLate@piefed.socialtoADHD@lemmy.world•Nothing seems worth itEnglish
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    3 days ago

    I believe you. I’m saddened watching the news out of America as an outsider, and I don’t have your emotional attachment to the country.

    If I was in your position, I can imagine I would be grieving right now. Grieving the loss of who and what you believed America stands for, grieving your lost confidence in your fellow Americans, grieving the future you hoped for and no longer see, grieving the loss of that part of your identity which used to be proud to be American. These are not minor things to grapple with, and the grieving process hurts. Leaving America won’t make that hurt go away though.

    Don’t get me wrong. I’ve moved countries twice now, and I highly recommend it. It’s a wonderful experience. However, it’s also a very stressful thing to do, so only do it to move somewhere that you are excited about going to. Important is the “to”, not the “from”. It’s a bit like moving in with a new partner, you’re going to need those “honeymoon period” feelings to get you through the initial challenges 😄

  • SorryImLate@piefed.socialtoADHD@lemmy.world•Nothing seems worth itEnglish
    2·
    3 days ago

    Thank you for your message, it helps me to know I’m not alone too. I’m sorry that you’re having a rough time, SAD is the pits. It hit me hard my 1st few winters in Europe.

    I trust you’re taking your vitamin D and getting as much light as you can. I’ve got a new puppy, so no choice about going outside any more, no matter the weather 🥶 (I’ll pm you tomorrow, I’m too lazy to upload a photo now.)

  • SorryImLate@piefed.socialtoADHD@lemmy.world•Nothing seems worth itEnglish
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    5 days ago

    You sound as if you’re having a depressive episode. I recognise it because I struggle with depression.

    Depression is usually a reaction to real issues. The problem comes in when your psyche becomes overly focused on the negative aspects of your life, and can’t fairly value the positive aspects. Think of it as seeing life through a grey veil, except your brain lies to you and tells you this is what’s really true, and that before you were looking at life through rose-coloured glasses. It’s not true.

    1. Please get help.
    2. It get’s better, I promise.
    3. Moving countries will not fix your depression - no need to ask me how I know :/ Wherever you go, you will be taking yourself with, so look after yourself please.
    4. The rest of the world knows it’s not all Americans. The people that matter don’t think less of you just because you’re American, they judge you based on your own choices. The kind of people who judge you by your nationality are the same kind of intolerant fools that MAGA attracts.
    5. America has problems but is still better than many places. The issue is less the absolute reality and more the relative change. How America is today is worse than it was but still better than many places ever were.

    Sending you hugs.