When the whole Cerritos crew was having an orgy in 2x08 (in a holodeck sim, but then you cited holodecks sims first) Billups was sitting there in the nude reading happily on his own.
I took his mother’s choice of who to send to him as more evidence of her trying anything and everything (other than just accepting his asexuality) than knowing his actual interests.
Also, aromantic and asexual are different things and do not necessarily go together, so showing romantic interest does not necessarily disprove asexuality.
Star Trek should absolutely be gatekept from conservatives.