he hates that these kids can’t be exploited the way other children are.

This is so true it took the wind out of me 💀

I’m so glad you said breasts!! Come with me on an exploratory walk:

Let’s say you fall for a woman. You’re getting intimate and she stops you to tell you something serious. See, she hasn’t been honest about her body with you. She hasn’t dated in awhile and didn’t know when the right time was to tell you, but she wants you so much that it can’t be avoided now.

She had her breasts removed for an unspecified medical reason. You thought she had a great rack, but those were prosthetics. Despite her biological circumstances he happens to identify with having breasts and prosthetics make her feel confident and normal.

Has there been deception? Have you been led on? I don’t think so, I think this was this just part of learning whether you’re compatible with someone. Only you know whether the absence of breasts is a deal breaker for you, and you get to decide freely in that moment.

Does that help?

I don’t think it’s tangentially related? You have effectively contrasted the Right Thing To Do comment with your experience of the Wrong Thing To Do as well as its terrible, lifelong impact.

I too had that flavor of (let’s say unkind) upbringing and now I devote every waking moment to tearing that garbage out of me and installing something more like what u/moakley described

Dihydrotestosterone Georg