
From the info you provided, my opinion is that you are not the asshole and frankly sounds like more than a few red flags from your boyfriend.
That’s a tough situation to be in. You mentioned the lack of house chores on his part, is that something that bothers you, or just something that doesn’t speak highly of hos character?
I get that. I’m glad you’re getting good feedback. I was struggling to offer some sound advice but others in this thread are articulating my sentiments well. I’m happy you’re getting help and that that’s working for you, good job! I’m a strong advocate of seeking professional help from a therapist. If your boyfriend has trauma from a therapist, that’s gotta be a difficult bridge to cross, but I do feel like that is going to be a nessesity in moving your relationship forward, whether it’s from a professional or you end up working that role (almost impossible to do from your position within the relationship imho). My feelings go out to you, I hope you’re getting good advice here!