I probably would have done the same thing. Sounds cute to watch.
That’s a both flags if I ever heard one
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Enjoyed watching me suffer -> Definitely into anal
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All these comments about her but nobody has asked how it took him 7 minutes to find a cafe in one intersection? It’s not a secret lair, presumably enough people find it that it stays in business.
Something similar happened to me. I can 100% vouch for this guy. I had to go to a neighboring locale and ask them and it was like immediately next door. Knowing the address, GPS, and street view did nothing to help me. I was all like “ok, this entrance has the house number immediately before where I needed to go, and the next visible door had the house number immediately after where I needed to go, where the absolute fuck is this?”
I don’t know about your town but in most places odd numbers are on the opposite side of the street from even numbers, so that scenario would mean you should look across the street.
No yeah that was implied i.e. I saw 10 and 14 but not 12
Some road crossings are bad, and some roads are wide. And you may have to wait to cross to an island, then wait there to go further.
Example:
And you could have more of these.Agreed. But it’s written as if he couldn’t find it, not that it took forever to negotiate the intersection. Also, her coming out wouldn’t have helped him in that case.
Ah yes, those are sometimes pedestrian speed challenges and reward those willing to dash across at sometimes unmarked times!
Green flag, she’s down for social experiments
Depends on how hot she was.
I still would.
Yes.
Maybe we’re all a little flag fatigued, and we don’t need to analyze every behavior of a bunch of jumped up apes on a scorecard of correct and incorrect answers for every decision they make?
I get that we are all hyper-aware of just how bad it can get if we don’t pay attention to warning signs in 2025, but can’t someone do something a little quirky without it being an indicator of virtue or flaw?
Would it be better to just say, do you like it or don’t like it? Cause I like a little quirky and no, a single post from a stranger doesn’t make us all into world renowned psychoanalysts.
Hmm, nuance to social interaction, green flag!
Life of brian: you’re all individuals. ~“not me”~
But judgement and assumption are some of our favorite hobbies, we need them to understand the world and feel safe. How would my life be interesting to anyone if I didn’t invent the story!?
I once saw a professor on my way to his class and, since I really abhor small talk, I kept walking just far back enough for him to not notice me until we got to the classroom where he just kept walking straight ahead. I went in and 15 minutes later he arrived saying “I couldn’t find the classroom”. No, it wasn’t the first class.
Hit them with the “how psychopathic do you think I am?” as a first impression.
I would say this is definitely not a red flag.
But I’m also not saying it’s green. Probably more green than anything… Maybe a nice seafoam.
The Good is that she wasn’t angry and was being patient. Letting you figure it out. The not great but not bad part of this is that she did nothing to help.
I would have just stepped outside for “some fresh air” and wait for the person to notice me standing next to the entrance. That way I’m helping them, but only a little, they still have to find me. Finding me may be easier than finding the establishment that we agreed to meet at.
The key here is to not go out and call them over. Let them find you. If you call them, it’s kinda difficult to walk the line of, “oh hey, I’m over here” and not cross over into “get over here stupid. I had to come get you because you’re to dumb to find things yourself”… Best play is just to make yourself more obvious.
I wouldn’t say this is a green flag as it is, but it’s definitely not a red one.
Hehehe I’m way too autistic for this type of internal monologue.
Hey fren wassup!
ADHD here. We study behavior so we can mask.
It becomes almost rudimentary when you notice the patterns. Just need to know what to look for and constantly be thinking of how the other person will see it.
The not great but not bad part of this is that she did nothing to help.
She gets this opportunity to study his thinking from this perspective ONCE. Let her enjoy, and if she still likes him, and he likes her, that was an awesome move!
Coming back to edit… if I’m the lost dude, and she comes out to grab me, that’s embarrassing. Fuck that. Everything that happened was good. It’s a green flag now.
It’s a red flag on the third date.
That’s a fine opinion. You have every right to disagree with me and I’ll fight anyone who tries to take that away from you.
We may not agree on this, but it’s not worth getting bothered about. Enjoy your day!
I’d say go for it, but tread carefully.
Green flag, letting you make your own mistakes without getting mad
One time I was meeting someone for a second date. I got a seat at a table outside. There’s a fence and a gate between that area and the sidewalk.
I see her walk by. She sees me. She waves. She keeps walking and is gone.
I’m have so many questions. I text her.
Turns out she didn’t know there was a gate in the fence there and thought you had to go like around the long way, but for solid moment I thought she was like aggressively standing me up.
We dated for a few years and are still friends.
Sounds like your date didn’t pan out, bud.
If I were her, I’d totally try to look super-cool and hop over the fence. This would probably end with me hurting myself and/or looking like an idiot.
Then you get sympathy and a story to tell at parties. I see no downside.
I think a second date would be needed at least before claiming red or green flag. She sounds interesting, but I have concerns that it could get bad quick…
So you’d rather watch him fail than help him succeed?
She watched him succeed.
She watched him fail for 7 first.
I watched me fail for much longer
that’s a keeper. humour, and no misplaced respect.
