What is it with medical professionals gaslighting patients. I had my virtual my appointment and explained my symptoms and the first thing the NP tried to say was “Well, we normally treat perimenopause with birth control pills, that is the standard.” and I said, “Well, the last perimenopause “specialist” tried that same remedy and it did not work. And I would really appreciate it if you could look at my symptoms and a prior birth control therapy history as an individual case and not the “standard” please.” When I said that, she changed her tune real quick. “Oh I’ll absolutely look at this on an individual basis.” I cut to the chase and said because the “standard” birth control remedy wasn’t working, I wanted to try HRT, and she and I went back and forth for about 45 minutes about how she didn’t want to prescribe it and I finally put my foot down and said, birth control stops a baby, it doesn’t stop hair loss, extreme fatigue, low libido and low testosterone. It stops a baby and regulates my period, it does not address other perimenopause symptoms. If you prescribe birth control I WON’T TAKE IT. I’m refusing the prescription. So are you willing to prescribe the estradiol patch or gel and progesterone or not? Is that something you’re willing to do or do I need to end the virtual visit and schedule with someone else? Long story short guys, I won, she knew if the birth control wasn’t working, it didn’t make clinical sense to prescribe it again. She had no choice but to pivot and prescribe the HRT. I do have to see a physician not a NP for the testosterone next month. the NP did order labs to make sure it’s not my thyroid causing the issue and I’ll be taking those results to my Dr’s appt. in December. But WHY do providers have to give you such a hard time, like you don’t know your own body? WHY? Guys, you have to be your own advocate and FIGHT! If I was a passive patient, I wouldn’t have said anything, I would have just sat there and accepted the 'BANDAID" prescription of birth control again, knowing it doesn’t work. I feel so bad for the quiet ones who don’t fight for themselves. Is it just me? Anyone else have to “WOLF OUT” on a provider to be taken seriously?