• RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz
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    15 days ago

    I’d be interested to know why they thought that too. Not sure why that’s a bad thing

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      15 days ago

      I’d smile and be flattered initially and then I also would ask why. Isn’t seeking to understand, a natural thing to do? We ask why about lots of things and it isn’t an issue. I bet they asked themselves that question too cuz it means their gaydar sucks.

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        15 days ago

        I was 5’5", shy, nerdy, never had a girlfriend, and got asked if I was gay a lot. Then for unrelated reasons, I as an adult actually did transition to female and even married a guy. The same types that bullied me for being effeminate as a kid now tell me I’ll never be a real woman.