It’s a mixed bag even in “normal” families. When I was growing up everybody was bullied by their older siblings. Sometimes the oldest would be protective at school; usually not. Most grew up to tolerate their siblings. The rest of us can barely stand them.
After moving around I found there actually were families where the siblings are really tight in adulthood. But even then it was always preceded by blow ups as teenagers and lots of fighting as kids.
It’s a mixed bag even in “normal” families. When I was growing up everybody was bullied by their older siblings. Sometimes the oldest would be protective at school; usually not. Most grew up to tolerate their siblings. The rest of us can barely stand them.
After moving around I found there actually were families where the siblings are really tight in adulthood. But even then it was always preceded by blow ups as teenagers and lots of fighting as kids.