We trusted each other with anything. She was always by my side and we had similar interests… only for her to start acting dry and distant. When I asked what was wrong, she blocked me and then on an alternate account, told me to stop talking to her (which she did first, I already stopped) and that we weren’t friends anymore. She then told me to kill myself and called me a dumb bitch. She also enjoys seeing negative and painful reactions out of me and knows I’m suicidal but told me that anyway.
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Well, something has happened. And it looks like you are not trying to figure out what exactly. This kind of changes don’t come out of nowhere. There is always a reason.
How would op know if there being told to stop contacting them?
I once has a friend who was bipolar suddenly turn incredibly hostile and angry with me.
They insisted “I knew what i had done” but i still wonder what they could possibly have meant with it, i recalled the last communication before that being a mundane but friendly chat. I could not talk to them, they became actually violent.
None of our mutual friends knew what was up, or managed to learn what it is “that i did”.
Now it wouldn’t be uncharacteristic for them to create some strange theories of people they knew being involved with a secret templar society and actively keeping them in the dark, but i don’t know if this was connected to it and i never found a way to talk to them again after that.
It sounds like your “friend” is a malignant narcissist. You’re better off with her out of your life. The fact that you’ve had one in your life tells me that there is a good probability that you’ve had another person on the narcissism spectrum in your life, likely a parent, and that you need to learn how to recognize narcissists and their abusive tactics, learn to set strong boundaries. Here’s something to get you started: https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2016/06/20-diversion-tactics-highly-manipulative-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-to-silence-you/
LOL, no. A malignant narcissist would be keeping OP around to abuse in order to make themselves feel better. Sounds like she just told OP to get fucked and that was that. We don’t know anything else.
The typical narcissist relationship cycle goes from idealization, to devaluation, and then discard. However, often after discard there will be an effort to suck the victim back in (the “hoover”). Also, we do know more. Specifically, that she told OP to kill herself, knowing that she is suicidal, and also that she derives pleasure from OP’s negative, painful reactions. This clearly shows a lack of empathy, a key characteristic of a malignant narcissist.
I don’t know, you’re probably right, but to add more info, she acted very attached, trusted me with a lot, I was like her favorite person, and she even wanted me to move to another country to live with her only to discard me because I wasn’t useful to her anymore.
