I think the issue here is that shorthair cannot know for sure what longhair is experiencing, exactly. Shorthair has experienced something that they would describe in the same way, but neither can know with certainty what the other experiences.
It is perfectly understandable to relate to others in pain by sharing your own pain with them, but it can come across as a bit dismissive sometimes, I think that’s the root of the discourse here.
Longhair: explains problem they insist short-haired can’t understand
Short hair: explains he does and why, revealing deep emotional damage underneath
You: MY SOGGY KNEEEEES!
I think the issue here is that shorthair cannot know for sure what longhair is experiencing, exactly. Shorthair has experienced something that they would describe in the same way, but neither can know with certainty what the other experiences.
It is perfectly understandable to relate to others in pain by sharing your own pain with them, but it can come across as a bit dismissive sometimes, I think that’s the root of the discourse here.