I got bullied a lot. The only clique that didn’t bully me, was them. They were very ride or die people. They always made me laugh, my first ever crush was on one of them, but I never told him. Then, years after school, I’d get random people from that subculture helping me. A bunch of them talked me out of suicide. I didn’t even know them, but that’s what they did. And now that subculture’s just…gone. I know those people still exist, obviously, but every time I think about it, or watch old videos involving people of that subculture, I feel a wave of warmth followed by emptiness. I never got to thank some of them for making my teenage years my golden years. I felt safe opening up to them emotionally. Otherwise, I was a closed book. My family are very “get on with it” “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about” people.

I forgot to put my age, but I’m a woman, and 30.

  • MotoAsh@piefed.socialEnglish
    11·
    1 day ago

    I don’t think nostalgia and “remembering better times” are equivalent.

    I can reminisce about “better times” all day, but the feeling is absolutely different when some old stimulus comes on and punches you right in the feels.

    Nostalgia is literally feeling those old feelings, not simply remembering them and whining about how they cannot be wholly recreated.

    • just_another_person@lemmy.world
      21·
      1 day ago

      As others have pointed out, I think you should read the context of what OP is saying.

      Had, then lost. Thinking about a lost time. Literally the title.

      You’re just describing a subjective way to process feelings.

      • MotoAsh@piefed.socialEnglish
        11·
        1 day ago

        Nope. Just recognizing the nuance between nostalgia and literally remembering better times.

            • just_another_person@lemmy.world
              11·
              1 day ago

              Then you’re not understanding what I said. Can’t help you there.

              Edit: are you confused on what the word “or” means, perhaps, or is it the Oxford Comma?

              • MotoAsh@piefed.socialEnglish
                11·
                1 day ago

                lol no I’m not confused. You seem to not understand the situation… sad.

                You said, “you’re describing the feeling of ‘remembering better times’, or nostalgia”. Those are two different things. You agree they’re two different things, yet you’re confused on my point … pathetic. That is pathetic levels of comprehension.