1 is for all relationships, romantic and not. Being a better (or even just more well-rounded) person supports all areas, since you can make more connections, and better maintain them in all situations. 2 can be a way to build a really strong connection, but one or two shared interests, and a good personality match does not a relationship make - especially as people and situations change.
Either works for either, really. I’ve masked my weirdness enough to have moderate luck in the short term on path 1, I’ve had luck scouring for real weirdos on path 2. Both take effort.
For a long term spouse, I still think the middle path is best. I wouldn’t have been happy long term with the normies on path 1, and the certified freaks on path 2 wouldn’t have been healthy long term either. You wanna hit that sweet spot where you roughly have your shit together, but you’re not dulling your shine much.
1 is of you want to sleep/date around, 2 is if you want to find a husband/wife, no?
1 is for all relationships, romantic and not. Being a better (or even just more well-rounded) person supports all areas, since you can make more connections, and better maintain them in all situations. 2 can be a way to build a really strong connection, but one or two shared interests, and a good personality match does not a relationship make - especially as people and situations change.
Either works for either, really. I’ve masked my weirdness enough to have moderate luck in the short term on path 1, I’ve had luck scouring for real weirdos on path 2. Both take effort.
For a long term spouse, I still think the middle path is best. I wouldn’t have been happy long term with the normies on path 1, and the certified freaks on path 2 wouldn’t have been healthy long term either. You wanna hit that sweet spot where you roughly have your shit together, but you’re not dulling your shine much.