The power tripping admins at lemmy.blahaj.zone decided to ban me from 196 for zero reason. Citing “Troll” as the one they gave. I understand blahaj has had issues with power-tripping at the admin level in the past over stupid neopronoun debates regarding actual trolls pretending to be fake genders but this is a new low even for them.
Traditionally it hasn’t been. It is getting there in some ways. In the Midwest in the late 80s an 90s people used dude like they were smurfs or something. But it was very regional, not at all universal.
Worked with a younger woman co worker from a female dominated household who used “girl” as most would use “man” in slang. I got a chuckle out of it the first time, and after that I always understood. But you gotta try and understand where others are coming from or how they might feel. So many such slang terms borrowing from heavily gendered words like dude or man can be very erasing and unwanted.
In the end, we don’t have the right for others to not be offended. And if you didn’t intend for others to be offended. The absolute worst way to show it is to say fuck you I’ll do what I want.