• LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world
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    10 hours ago

    Aw yeah now that you put it that way, I actually prefer cuddling, could live without the slimy sweaty painful pounding. We need a third option up there for just romance & spooning with clothes on please.

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        6 hours ago

        Am woman. Men who learn sex through porn think it’s ok to fuck us like we’re a slab of meat, and their penis is a merciless steel meat tenderizer, trying to fuck us until they until they kill us but thankfully they cum before they completely murder me. Actually I’ve gotten to the point I don’t even want the company of a man anymore because all they do is take pleasure and give pain.

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      6 hours ago

      The pain aspect is something you should address. First with your partner if their technique can be changed, and second with a few doctors. This one is like a layer cake - maybe you’re ace, maybe there is emotional context (that could be entirely unrelated to your current situation) that causes physical discomfort, or possibly there’s a physical component that your doctor might be able to help you with. Or some combination of all of them, because people are complex.

      But romantic asexuality is definitely a thing, as is a number of variants within it.