This is also why I can’t respond ‘good’ to how I am. If I am ‘good’ then it means I’m better than average or median. But if I say I am good too often, it becomes the average.
I’m the only person I know who thinks it’s incredibly rude to ask people how they are as a greeting when you don’t really want an honest answer. It puts the person being asked on the spot to be disingenuous like everyone expects, or offer information that the greeter really didn’t want, and therefore shouldn’t have asked for in the first place.
This is how I feel about it as well, but as an autist, I’ve learned that neurotypical just mean it as a greeting, and nothing more. It doesn’t matter what you say, they just want a “hello” in a structured way.
Teaching the youngling how to voice emotions and sometimes you just need a society break will set that kid up far better than the usual education systems we have.
This is also why I can’t respond ‘good’ to how I am. If I am ‘good’ then it means I’m better than average or median. But if I say I am good too often, it becomes the average.
I’m the only person I know who thinks it’s incredibly rude to ask people how they are as a greeting when you don’t really want an honest answer. It puts the person being asked on the spot to be disingenuous like everyone expects, or offer information that the greeter really didn’t want, and therefore shouldn’t have asked for in the first place.
This is how I feel about it as well, but as an autist, I’ve learned that neurotypical just mean it as a greeting, and nothing more. It doesn’t matter what you say, they just want a “hello” in a structured way.
My husband always says he’s normal when asked. It took some time to get used to not hearing “good”. Our toddler now also replies with she’s normal.
Teaching the youngling how to voice emotions and sometimes you just need a society break will set that kid up far better than the usual education systems we have.
I consider “good” to be of the binary group good or not good.
Average is good, a little low is good. Great is good
Though I usually answer “fine :)”