the reason they wouldnt know, is because they wouldnt allow themselves to consider it.
when queer people are seen as an icky out-group, or not even truely discussed, it pushes people to ignore and supress their feelings.
“i cant possibly be one of them! im normal!” “i might feel like i dont want to be my birth assigned gender, but there is nothing to be done about that :<”
it takes time, positive awareness of queerness an accepting environment or the ability to emancipate oneself from toxic environments to be able to overcome this conditioning.
the reason they wouldnt know, is because they wouldnt allow themselves to consider it.
when queer people are seen as an icky out-group, or not even truely discussed, it pushes people to ignore and supress their feelings. “i cant possibly be one of them! im normal!” “i might feel like i dont want to be my birth assigned gender, but there is nothing to be done about that :<”
it takes time, positive awareness of queerness an accepting environment or the ability to emancipate oneself from toxic environments to be able to overcome this conditioning.
This is why there somehow wasn’t a single gay or trans kid in my high school in the 90s. I sometimes wonder which ones actually were now.
The null hypothecis. If only I had thought to ask if I’m cishet sooner.