• finley@lemm.ee
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    2 months ago

    I’ve never noticed a difference on either end

    ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      2 months ago

      Same. I prefer the ultra thins. Anything else really doesn’t feel differently on the receiving end, even the ridged ones.

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    2 months ago

    For which party?

    Now, I’ve never taken it in the ass unless you count colonoscopy and other medical invasions. But I’ve fucked partners in the ass, though only women. Sorry, I’m hetero, so there’s limits to my willingness to do it for science lol.

    However, I love gay dudes. Always have, and you might be amazed at how willing those guys are to talk about such things to a token straight.

    The real answer is that it varies. People that like anal don’t all like the same things.

    I would say, on average, that most people don’t want/need/enjoy the extra texture for anal. You can’t really feel the ribs on your dick anyway, no matter what you’re putting it in. At least that’s what I’ve been told by other guys, and I know I can’t.

    With vaginal, women can usually feel the difference, and there’s the usual “it depends on the person” as to whether or not it’s enjoyed. But anally, the extra friction can be intense supposedly. That isn’t always wanted, and can turn a nice anal session into a failed anal session.

    Back in our younger days, when my best friend/roomie would bring guys home, the preference was definitely for standard condoms. One dude did bring his own ribbed though. Asked if it was going to be a three-way too, but that’s another story lol.

    And that’s generally the word I have from gay guys. It’s not the norm, but you’ll run into some dedicated bottoms that prefer condoms with texture. That’s local/regional though, it could be different elsewhere.

    I do know that the condom box at one of the clubs I bounced at would run out of pretty much everything else before the ribbed. Eventually, they stocked magnums instead. Those sold like crazy. The free condoms at the bar were all whatever got donated, and it was always just grab and go, so I never noticed any patterns there

    It’s one of those things you’d have to try to know whether or not it was worth trying lol.

    • Ellia Plissken@lemm.eeOP
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      2 months ago

      that’s really funny. I had an FWB (let’s say Katie) that I was still friends with but not sleeping with because she had started dating somebody. she’d recently broken up with him, and her closest girl friend got absolutely sloshed and called me from Katie’s phone asking if she could watch us fuck.

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          2 months ago

          lol my friend was sober, she took the phone away and told me to go ahead and come over. the one who wanted to watch had passed out on the couch by then, so we went to the bedroom.

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    2 months ago

    Eh, if you’ve got a prostate (aka you were AMAB) that’s probably doing most of the work so ribs likely wouldn’t matter. If you’ve seen toys designed for anal they often involve much more dramatic texturing (i.e. anal beads) since that will trigger a sensation that ribbing likely won’t.

    And, if you think about it logically, if you’re constipated you kind of don’t want to feel every minor fissure or bump on what’s coming out.

    So as an AMAB I haven’t observed a difference and I kind of doubt AFABs would either.

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      2 months ago

      It’s not so much AMAB/AFAB as vaginal canal vs no vaginal canal. A person with a prostate and a vaginal canal doesn’t get as much pressure on the prostate from anal.

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        2 months ago

        Oh, interesting - but a plug would probably fix that right? AFABs lack the prostate entirely, so that bundle of nerves doesn’t really help with sensations.

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          It’s not a matter of “fixing” so much as things moving around. After bottom surgery, the vaginal canal sits between the prostate and the anal canal, so sensation to the prostate is reduced with anal sex. However, the prostate ends up sitting approximately where the “g spot” is in AFAB folk, and so is more easily accessed via the vaginal canal

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            My terminology was a bit lacking - but that’s interesting, TIL!

            So, for transwomen the nerves you’re dealing with for stimulation during anal probably are really close to ciswomen.

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    2 months ago

    If you like a lot of sensation then u might like it. I found that it made it painful but I think that was a latex thing more than a surface texture thing. Too bad they don’t make them in plastic.

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    2 months ago

    They don’t really make much of a difference, imo. There are wearable products out there that can add a texture difference, but they are incompatible with condoms if you are trying to reduce the risk of STDs.

    That said, there are many ways to spice up sex in new and fun ways, even outside of condom choice :)