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Cake day: September 20th, 2025

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  • A lot of accumulating pieces of luck. I started as a physical therapist, but burned out. A friend suggested a coding bootcamp where I made a new friend who used to be an occupational therapist. She got a job and then moved into digital accessibility (which we hadn’t really learned about but made sense with our backgrounds). Her workplace had an opening in accessibilty and they hired me, so I moved and that’s what I’ve been doing ~6 years.


  • It feels pretty disingenuous to ignore that the “legal” pathway to immigration is a matter of years and thousands of dollars; which pretty much always blocks asylum seekers. Now it’s also a matter of the luck to not be born into the “wrong” countries.

    OOP’s wife will be illegal the moment she steps foot in this country, and OOP and I can agree that’s ridiculous. I just extend the same to lots and lots of other people.







  • It seems to me that dinner and cocktail parties have really fallen out of favor. It makes since to me though. Both my spouse and I work, so neither of us can do the prep work to get our home ready and a meal ready in time to have guests. Hosting norms would also have me pay for the food or drinks which fine once in a blue moon, but not something I could do frequently. I’m one of my few friends with a space that would even make sense to host in, so I’d pretty much be the only one hosting, so the only one spending money. It quickly becomes something I don’t want to do.

    There’s also a reduction in affordable third spaces. I get third spaces needing to make money, but it’s so expensive to go out with friends and just hang out.