If you think you made a mistake I say you should probably reach out to Ada through their email form and request an appeal, instead of making a thread here to complain about all of blahaj.zone. Listen I’m someone who used to be a lot like you and not understanding people being offended by wrong pronouns, I have learned though in my journey that for people who are Trans, assholes and bigots take every opportunity to push them down or make them feel invalid, on top of everything else. Being trans is not easy, and I don’t think people who aren’t can ever truly understand how difficult it really is.

So when someone is excusing using wrong pronouns or excusing transphobia, it can be extremely hurtful to people who are traumatized and have gone through misgendering and invalidation, or are continuing to go through it right now.

Try to understand that for many trans women out there, being called a dude hurts, not just because of being called a dude but all the other shit on top of that that comes with being trans.

It is mildly disappointing that they’re like this, I honestly feel more bad for them and how it’ll affect them. Other than that though I don’t take it personally, I guess since I used to be like them in my beliefs so I know why they’re like that and it doesn’t hurt me. I hope at the very least for their sake they can learn to overcome their bigotry in the future, though I know it’ll likely never happen.

By the way, I did leave shortly after the incident. I just got a Tupperware container, packed it full of food for me to eat when I got home, and I got in my car and left.

Yeah I guess, I don’t really feel that bad though, just kind of sorry for them that they can’t be better people. Like I said it doesn’t surprise me. They think it’s a phase right now. I wonder what they’ll say when I have boobs. Actually I’m kinda excited to see. I got some good comebacks for whatever they might say 😈

I’m not a fan of this meme, it seems too much to imply that a person who doesn’t take HRT or hasn’t taken HRT is still cis because of it, transmedicalism is not cool.

That’s good to know. I never thought of doing DIY. I think I’ll try the official way first. I have a therapist I’m talking to right now and I might even be able to get it prescribed through my insurance. But I’ll hold on to this just in case I need it.

Understandable, I meant it as a way to stand up for trans people who are non-op or pre-op (can’t afford surgery or can’t get it at all) and being discriminated against based on their genitals.

Also my comment was directed towards a transphobic shithead who was spouting transphobia apologia saying that we shouldn’t fight back against transphobes because “they’re people too”.

Yeah I tried wearing a beanie recently and it was not pleasant. Can’t wear them like I normally like to rn.

Also thanks for the suggestion, I think those will look very cool.

I hope so

I’m working on growing my hair out as well, it’s frustrating how slowly it grows but hopefully it’ll be long soon. Then I plan to dye it too, just like in my profile picture.

Oh, I’ll definitely keep that in mind, gotta make sure to be extra careful when drying off after showering.

That’s reasonable, I did it now because I wanted to, and also because I know the sooner I do it, the sooner the healing process can start.

I say don’t let that stop you, if you want to get your ears pierced you should absolutely do it. Don’t let judgement of stupid people stop you, do what makes you happy, and be who you want.

Yeah I was told I should wear only the stud until it heals completely.

I wish I was on HRT rn :(

Transfem tomboy power 😎🏳️‍⚧️💪

It’s kind of a joke post but also kind of not, since I aspire to be a very butch, very Masc tomboy transfem. I’m not concerned if I pass enough for people’s tastes, I just want to be happy and be myself, my true self.

Is a Girl <3 | … :(

What are you on about? You ARE a girl <3 🏳️‍⚧️

Good suggestion, I’ll probably get proper breast pads or inserts though. I’ve got the money for it.

been refining that for about a year now to reasonable success till i start hrt

What? You’ve been waiting more than a year for HRT 😔😭?!? I don’t want to wait a whole year to do it, especially since it might get harder to do it in the future.

Uh yeah, British transphobes 😅

That’s good to know. I guess I can still eat like that but just work out more so I stay in shape and don’t lose too much muscle. Also glad to hear that muscle loss isn’t immediate or complete, still not thrilled about losing any. I know that for some trans girls it’s something they hate and want gone but personally I want to be a very big and muscular girl since I’m going for the butch tomboy look, and also it’s nice to be strong.