Anyone who knows anything about what a large language model is already knew this.

Did your wife do the thing where they feel “if I have to help at all I might add well do it myself. If I’m not resting, it’s no different than just doing it”? That was a huge problem for us because doing things by myself is the problem.

This hits really close to home. Am going through my own divorce right now and my ADHD is a major contributing factor to the breakdown of our relationship.

I don’t know about your situation, but my wife has too much of her own trauma to deal with my bullshit (and I say that knowing everyone has their own flavor of bullshit). She grew more and more discontent, and her trauma responses in particular were not a good fit for my ADHD

The “mental load” issue is hard for us, because a lot of the time we just need help learning or noticing. When you start collaborating on those things early it keeps the stress from reaching critical levels. But if the stress has already built up, it seems almost impossible for us to carry enough of the load on our own to bring it back down

I would ask my wife for accommodations like “if the laundry needs doing, leave the hamper in the hallway where I’ll see it every time I walk by”. Or “let’s do the dishes together, or even just body-double for me, because doing stuff as a team is motivating for me and gets it done immediately.” But by the time we realized what I needed, she was already too stressed out to see that as anything but “taking care of me” or “being a mom.” It hurt like hell to now what I needed and have a partner who was unwilling or unable to provide it.

As the issues grew, our intimacy declined, which made me way, way worse and feel like the woman who already struggled to speak in my love language (unrelated to the ADHD stuff) couldn’t provide what I needed anymore either.

I don’t mean to trauma-dump, just commiserate. I feel your pain on this, deeply. I think people like us need someone to understand what they’re getting into up-front so we can do the work together that keeps it from becoming a serious problem :(

Gaza is none of the things you listed there.

Moving people from Gaza to another location achieves none of the things you named.

For the record, I am NOT in favor of relocating anyone but the fuckfaced Israeli settlers in the West Bank

Still doesn’t somehow mean the majority of Israelis favor genocide.

The hyperbole needs to stop.

IsraelHayom is as bad as FOX News in terms of bias and hackery while your second source very specifically talks about expulsion, not genocide. I’m not gonna suggest that forcing everyone out of Gaza is even remotely okay but it is a far, far cry from “most Israelis support exterminating everyone in Gaza”.

It is frankly concerning that you have been convinced by a fear-mongering news source and a marginally related opinion piece that “most Israelis want to exterminate all Gazans”. Please do better.

I see you are too fired up to actually have a back and forth. Maybe some other time

here are the top 5 songs according to Spotify. if you have a different top song list I’d be happy to look at it.

Can you tell me which lyrics you take issue with?

https://lyricstranslate.com/en/omer-adam-malkat-hador-english

https://lyricstranslate.com/en/odeya-ben-adam-english

https://lyricstranslate.com/sr/noa-kirel-bridezilla-english

https://lyricstranslate.com/en/omer-adam-hashir-shat-ahavt-english

https://lyricstranslate.com/en/peer-tasi-muzar-english

Would you like me to find vile Twitter posts from any particular nation or culture? it’s not hard

Or would you prefer the articles about social media bots supporting netenyahu?

Can you define “they” and “them” please?

Wishing harm on strangers isn’t the strong position you seem to think it is

You just aggregated an entire national population into a single “they” and I don’t think that’s okay

I do not disagree with you that the government and a large contingent of Israelis fit that description. And I’m not sure why you think otherwise. No society is a monolith.

First of all, please cite your polling sources. You cannot make such a strong claim without providing a reputable polling source.

Second, your population chart is misleading as it is only marginally more bottom heavy than the world average

I appreciate the argument you’re making and I’m not dismissive you outright but you have not been convincing.

I’m not even going to pretend to defend the behavior of the Israeli military, government, orthodoxy, and settlers, but it is hyperbolic to claim a majority of Israelis are in favor of genocide. That just isn’t true by any reasonable measure.

It’s mostly about consent. We can debate when and where sentience begins, but it begins somewhere and vegans hold a moral philosophy that says using another sentient being’s work product or body without their consent is immoral.

Note that I am not vegan myself but understand, if not agree with, their moral position.

And as another reply said, most vegans recognize it as a “best effort” philosophy, as they appreciate the impracticality of an absolutist stance. They are focused on “harm reduction”.

I cannot make any promises about how well it’s adapted, of course. I do think this past season was a bit rushed, because of just how much they needed to pack into a limited number of episodes.

yes

As a light novel enjoyer, I’m excited to watch all the anime-only folks go through the emotional rollercoaster this arc brings.

Protip, just in case: Keep. Watching.

That is all I’ll say.

blue = azul

bluey = azula

Site-to-site and individual client setups are not mutually exclusive. They can co-exist.

I have Wireguard on both my phone and laptop - and tailscale should work the same way - which I only activate when I’m away from my home network.

You could even set it up where each “roaming” device is always connected to their “home” network by VPN, which uses site-to-site to further route the traffic where it needs to go.

I recommend looking into setting up site-to-site VPN configurations between routers at each location. I have this set up between my home network and my parents’ network.

Once you have it properly configured you can simply have the router itself handle routing of specific traffic over the VPN connection, instead of needing each device to connect to the VPN individually.

it’s a bit more complicated to set up and maintain but not anything outrageously complex, and absolutely worth it for your use case IMO