• Secret Music 🎵 [they/them]@piefed.blahaj.zoneOP
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    28 天前

    I’m honestly not too sure where else to post this kind of content. ‘Witches vs Patriarchy’ does seem like it should be more witchy content than this. But there’s no plethora of ‘blatant misogyny’ and ‘men and females’ type communities here like Reddit. And !feminism@beehaw.org seems like it’s more for articles and things of actual substance than memes or screenshots.

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      28 天前

      The very fact you thought so much about where to post it makes it okay in my book. Let’s strive to be thoughtful over blind unreachable perfection.

    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      28 天前

      Womenstuff or femcelmemes might have been good alternatives.

      Witches like bread though, so here should be fine :-)

    • karma_will_f_you_up@discuss.tchncs.de
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      28 天前

      It’s so funny that you want a “blatant misogyny” community, while if there was a “blatant misandry” community all of you hags would brigade it, therefore proving it needs to exist.

      You just want to shit on all men by generalising from a small sample size, that being your incredibly narrow anecdotal evidence. Go to hell.

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        27 天前

        It’s so funny that you want a “blatant misogyny” community, while if there was a “blatant misandry” community all of you hags

        22 words is all it took to out yourself as a misogynist.

      • Sas [she/her]@beehaw.org
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        28 天前

        You literally just came in here, told us that everyone here is a hag and wished us all to hell. The post did not generalize to all men, the community does not generalize to all men, the potential type of community op wanted did not generalize to all men. If you feel attacked by a post calling out misogyny in a single instance then it’s not all men, it’s you.

        • karma_will_f_you_up@discuss.tchncs.de
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          28 天前

          The OP saw someone’s comment on social media and immediately wanted to make a “VS men” community. That’s aggression. And it is misandry disguised as feminism.

          I called hags, hags. If you feel called out maybe reconsider if you aren’t one as well.

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              28 天前

              Could say the same to you, you participate in an entire community around whining lmao. Cry some more.

              Is the next post going to be how patriarchy messed up your haircut? Gtfo, daddy-issue-having whore.

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                28 天前

                Misogyny doesn’t exist enough for there to be a community for it.

                Calls someone who disagrees with you online a "daddy-issue-having whore.

                Cool man. Seek therapy and do some introspection.

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                  28 天前

                  OP could have just as easily left a like on the post itself, maybe a self-serving comment too, who knows. But nooo.

                  Must post to community to call out all men. Must write snarky comments asking for a community to further antagonise men in.

                  And you defend that bullshit… Jesus fucking Christ.

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                27 天前

                😂🤣😆 I’m a 67 year old cancer survivor and ex bike racer who worked in a mostly male industry for decades. Keep playing tough, sweetheart. I’ve faced far harder opponents than you ever have behind your little keyboard.

              • Pat_Riot@lemmy.today
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                28 天前

                You’re just embarrassing yourself here. You’re really out here waving your paper thin little incel feelings around and whimpering for sympathy for men and lashing out at women over a funny screenshot meme. Like could you be any more pathetic?

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                  28 天前

                  Lmao, cry some more why don’t you. Being called out for your misandry is clearly a pain point for you.

                  You’re the one in a community about whimpering about social media messages and supporting a misandrist femcel trying to paint half of the human population as a fucking problem. Do some introspection if your leftover neurons aren’t too busy rotting.

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            28 天前

            It’s vs patriarchy, not vs men. Patriarchy hurts everyone, including men.

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              28 天前

              If only that single man in the post by OP was responsible for patriarchy everywhere you would be right. How narrow-mindedly idiotic do you have to miss that this is instigating slop by OP from their misandrist POV…

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                28 天前

                Got it. Attacking one misogynist doesn’t count as an attack the whole of patriarchy. But it does somehow count as an attack on all men?

                Do you think this community is only allowed to take aim at King Patriarchy, creator and sole owner of Patriarchy Inc.?

                For what it’s worth, I have seen the occasional post in this community that I felt crossed the line into misandry. This isn’t one of them. This isn’t mocking a man, it’s mocking an asshole.

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                28 天前

                I’m a guy, and not only was it an appropriate response to some clown who was just about to launch into his tradwife diatribe, I also thought it was funny as hell.

                Consider that you might be a snowflake for feeling personally attacked by a silly meme, crying and raging and calling everyone a hag. That says infinitely more about you than anyone your infantile comments are directed at.

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                  28 天前

                  But consider that I’m not the one who felt personally attacked enough to post about it and wish to create new communities to diss the other gender? You’re a few screws loose, bud. Fuck off.

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            28 天前

            No, you just explode when you see a meme or comment that isn’t sexist or misandrist and repeatedly call women hags, which is much more reasonable

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              27 天前

              I called certain women hags. Did you feel personally called out? Maybe you shouldn’t hang around a misandrist group chat then, hag.

              This entire community is a circlejerk for asshole women.

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                Which misandrist group chat are you talking about? This comment thread between you and me, which contains no misandry but does contain you repeatedly and pointedly calling women hags?

                Also, I know this is much of a muchness, but I’m a cis man, you dickhead. There are plenty of guys who don’t like the way that guys like you talk about women and whine about how difficult it is to be a man when women complain about some men being hateful.

                So many men are sick of hearing other men like you berate and belittle and sideline women, and of hearing men like you only ever bring up the real issues that do affect men to try and use them as a stick to beat women with when they’re complaining about issues affecting them.

                You’re pathetic. You’re a sad, little loser.

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    28 天前

    The fact that she came up with a clever response rather than just saying “Yeah…we’re done here.” Is more than this Ralph Kramden wannabe deserves, to be honest.

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      28 天前

      Ralph Kramden wannabe? You must either be my age or some sort of autistic savant to drag out that old chestnut.

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      27 天前

      Right?

      The entire idea of predefined “roles” in a relationship is asinine.

      Unless they’re cool roles. I’ll be the wizard, you can be the barbarian. Or whatever idc.

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      27 天前

      tbh given the “alright.” to start the dude’s last message, I want the previous conversation context before judging lol

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      28 天前

      I actually find the answer incredibly funny and witty. I could see myself saying what he said but in an entirely sarcastic and mocking tone, basically making fun of that whole super macho male stereotype. Had a woman responded to me that way, I would have been smitten.

  • confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    27 天前

    Sometimes in this community, I’ll check the comment history of someone people who have heavy downvotes, sort by controversial and go on an adventure.

    As someone who doesn’t have much care about words, it’s always interesting to see into the mind and history of people who are easily angered by words.

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    28 天前

    I’d like to know how the conversation got there, because that’s a real weird message

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    28 天前

    I believe the Internet appropriate response to such a meme is:

    The audacity 👏🚩

  • lIlIlIlIlIlIl@lemmy.world
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    28 天前

    “as a man”

    speaking as a dude, you’re embarrassing us homie. cut it out or go eat a dick or something

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      I mean, his strategy didn’t work - but what is disturbing is that there are women who have low self esteem or were raised to be submissive and “traditional”, and his behavior acts as a filter, so that only those women will date him …

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          That’s why I would always talk about religion and politics on the first date. It’s gonna come up, it’s most likely gonna introduce a deal breaker (Americans suck), so let’s check early.

          “Who does that on the first date? You’re weird, Explodicle!” Yeah I know, weird dates only please.

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            The older I get the more absurd it sounds to me whenever anyone tells me “keep social/romantic life and politics separate!”

            No. Politics relate to our fundamental values. In addition they relate to our control of the environment. There’s almost nothing better to talk about than politics

            You dont build a relationship on the kind of pizza toppings you like

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              you don’t build a relationship on the kind of pizza toppings you like

              So in my early 20s I had this gf who I would go shoplifting with, and make food for unhoused people with.

              Pizza toppings were a genuinely large part of that relationship.

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            Right? They’re going to experience the full force of your personality sooner or later. Why not discover any incompatibilities early?

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          Christian fundamentalist women are the most likely to be skeptical of therapy and to prefer pastoral guidance over therapy, unfortunately - also, I have my own doubts that therapy alone would be sufficient, but it’s still better than nothing

          • My partner had parents that used therapy as a boogie man to get her to behave or it was for people that had something wrong with them (and you don’t have something wrong with you, right?). That made it real hard to bring it up as something that might be of use. I don’t doubt many people have similar experiences that make them adverse to seeking therapy, which is too bad because those are going to be people that could benefit greatly from it.

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    28 天前

    I doughn’t know if I want a man who isn’t well-bread. A rye sense of humour helps.

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    I’m so confused. If my guy over there likes to pose all cocky and stupid, just what kind of answers is he expecting to get? Because hers is just perfect… I reckon most people would just instantly block the guy.

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    If he demands to be the breadwinner because he’s a man, then what role is actually left for his partner other than bread eater?

    One can’t be like “I will do the work and provide for you, but you cannot be content being provided for”, because that’s just absolutely braindead.

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        I’m just a bit baffled tbh, do you reckon he was asking “what’s your role” as a rhetorical question? Because there’s no way he genuinely cares what she says, right?

        I guess… Unless her profile said “as a man you must be the breadwinner”, or gave off similar vibes to that? And that’s what he was responding to, as a reply to her and not just a total bolt from the blue?

        Just such a weird message 😂

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      “Traditional” gender roles say the man is the “breadwinner” and the woman cares for the house.

      I’d bet he was picking an argument and expected her to say that she planned to work. Maybe there was some hope that someone desiring to be a trad wife wouldn’t find the first message off putting, but my money says his main goal was arguing and he blocked her because she’s cleverer than he.

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    Ok, pretty funny. Just normal humor. Also holy fck, westerners are so transactional, they need a bussiness agreement for marriage.

    • Also holy fck, westerners are so transactional, they need a bussiness agreement for marriage.

      “Westerners” LOLOL. Its not just westerners, its conservatism.

      Lemme introduce you to my 祖国 (Homeland), China.

      Before a guy married a girl, he is expected to provide housing and must have money (aka: stable income).

      They actually make skits on Chinese social media making fun of this: Guy and Girl is on a date, girl asks: “Do you have a house, a car? What is your occupation and income?” If answers are unsatisfactory, the girl leaves. This is basically my parents (arranged) marriage in a nutshell, my paternal grandparents help my father get funding for housing. Marriage is expected in society, and it is very much transactional, probably explain why they argue so fucking much.

      Even parental love is very much transactional. “Obey me, or else we won’t love you”

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        I mean, there is a bare minimum, people should fix their lives up before committing to anything. But beyond the bare minium, looking at only wealth and gain, kind of defeats the point.

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    My wife and I have traded being the bread winner back and forth over the years. We always called the one not making any money at the time the “bread loser”

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      This has given me a hilarious mental image. For whatever reason, you and your wife are discussing who should be the one to take on more hours at work. The choice shall be defined by something akin to gladiatorial combat. On a pedestal above you is a fancy loaf of bread. When the battle finishes, the winner cheers and holds the bread over their head like a wrestling championship belt