I’m more like, I don’t mind how other people clean, but I have a particular way of doing things, like washing dishes with very hot water so that they dry quicker, or stacking them such that all cups, pots, containers, etc . . are standing face down so they drain properly. It’s the little things that bother me, since I worked as a dishwasher for a bit in a couple restaurants, so I actually enjoy doing the dishes overall. But there’s an optimal method to anything.
Yes but laundry
Yea but it’s true. Nobody in my family knows how to fucking clean glass or anythingn shiny (which extends to “everything” because if they’re leaving massive streaks on glass, they leave massive streaks on everything…
That’s snow-shoveling for me.
For some stuff at work too…
For everything I do at work, I work in a kitchen. There’s only the wrong way and then there’s my way.
Whoever you are, lady butterfly, all your obscure memes resonate with me. I think we could be best friends, or so much alike we’d rip each other apart in daily cat fights 🐈
Haha we’d deffo be friends i don’t do cat fights
Yay! 🚫😸
This was the eternal battle in our appartement. “Dishwasher Nazi” was thrown around.
My toxic trait is quite the opposite!
You wanna help me clean? Pick up and move when you see me coming towards you with a vacuum
Oh hey mom I didn’t know you were on the Fediverse 😂
Yes I am. Have you eaten today? Because I made casserole.
Plot hole! My mom only knows how to cook chicken marsala and mashed potatoes!
Or if anyone cleans, clean it yourself again immediately after to make sure it’s clean. That really motivates people
That isn’t toxic, it’s mental illness.
I moved in with a domestic couple several years back, my best friend and his partner. Their relationship was super toxic, I’m glad they split and I helped set my friend up with the love of his life. I was friends with his partner too, but their relationship was pure shit.
She was a mom and didn’t earn much wages, she was a part time photographer. My friend had a shitty, difficult mechanic job, and would be exhausted when he got home. I was a single dad, and spent part of my week with my kids at our old house while my ex would leave to stay with her new boyfriend.
Huge piles of dishes would build up, and my friend and his partner would argue about them. She’d say, why don’t you ever do the dishes? He’d say, you’re home all day why don’t you do them? Just the most petty toxic shit that probably wasnt actually about the dishes.
I have a personal policy of never getting emotional about kitchen chores. If I came home from work and there were dishes, I would just do them. Often the partner would come in while I’m doing dishes and be like, “what are you doing??” Like fuming with anger. I’d just kind of ignore her irritation and say, “the dishes.” I think she took it like I was judging her for not doing dishes or something, but I could always just repeat my personal policy. I mean I was also cooking and making dishes myself, I really didn’t see the problem.
It happened so much, it was kinda funny getting a rise out of her for just trying to be helpful, but good lawd it was always such an ordeal
Your 3rd paragraph, I’m on your friend’s side. If there’s someone home all day, with no job, they oughta do the dishes. Wait, no, I just remembered my true stance on all household chores: if you make a mess, clean it up. Nobody in a house should be washing dishes that someone else sullied. Everybody does their own damn dishes!
I’m kinda like that with chores. If I say I’ll do them, I’ll do them but I often have hard time forcing myself and ifnsomeone decides to simply do them themselves, I feel pissed off, as if that person told me I am worthless and looked at me with disdain even if I am logically aware that such person just is like that - they have time or even simply feel like doing it so they do.
I learned to control my reaction but yeah, maybe the partner was like that without control.
Yeah it was kinda quirky but we were still friends. It was kinda funny watching her stand there visibly cycling through various negative emotions but trying so hard not to show it
This is only true until you get to live with people who ‘cleans’ pans and put them back with a thick layer of sludge on it and refuses to do a better job cleaning it.
Please forgive me, I don’t know why something about your comment reminded me of something Katy Perry said when she was living with Orlando bloom, that she would suck his dick every day if he always washed the dishes. I guess no one can escape the neverending burden of household chores.
It’s also important to accuse anyone who tries to help of “weaponized incompetence.”
