30s no, I won’t elaborate
I discovered I was good at flirting at 17. I also discovered that as soon as a girl starts making out with me or getting handsy I lose interest. My brain is like “yay, validation, we won, okay let’s go get a snack.”
Took me over a year to learn that asexuality is a spectrum and that there are other people who like sex in theory but can be repulsed by (or indifferent to) it in practice.
Ayyyye similar! Ive always been a bit flirty but just have no interest in sex. I didn’t admit I was ace until 36 or so. I tried many ways I just don’t care lol
I haven’t tried too many times, but I’ve discovered it’s kind of just interesting to see how different people like different things.
And hey it is nice to meet another similar ace. Most aces I meet online or otherwise are completely sex repulsed. Then again I suppose I haven’t met many aces online or in person lol
Did you ever have a “maybe I’m bi” phase?
I’m asking because an Asexual youtuber stated they thought they had an equal attraction to men and women, before realizing that they did like the equally… at 0 attraction.
I know this sounds crazy, but i did kiss and makeout my same-sex female friends at a sleepover when we were 8-9 years old because we wanted to “practice” (y’all, don’t let kids have unrestricted/unmonitored internet 😭), but I never thought of them in a girlfriend/date way. I thought I liked a close girl friend in middle school, but once I got to high school I realized I’ve never had butterflies, wet dreams, or any desire to kiss any boys or girls that I met.
At this point, I think I’m asexual (or maybe demi). I know that graysexuals can still have some sexual attraction or like having sex, so I don’t feel any doubt/imposter syndrome for reading smut (hey, some aces write smut).
Anyway to add to the overall thread I’ve been questioning since 10 or so, and going with Ace since 16 or so.
After kissing a girl for a first time, realizing I wasn’t into it, my first thought was “oh fuck what if I’ve been gay this whole time?” That night I looked up gay porn 😂 I was very much grossed out and definitely didn’t feel the arousal I would from women.
I did eventually kiss a guy at college because I’m a scientist lol and yeah despite him being a good looking dude, honestly not a fan. Sadly I think I’m just sex repulsed by men
Anyway I’m also aromantic. All my guy friends and girl friends would obsess over crushes and think about lives together or being in a relationship and I didn’t get any of that. Like why should I care who a person sees apart from me?
(Also, me, I am an ace who writes smut lololol at least I did in highschool)
Hard to say. I’m bi and I had an undercover boyfriend when I was 12 or 13. Although neither of us really called it that it, it’s pretty clear that’s what it was in restrospect. Then growing up in the environment that I did, I stayed closeted until I was in my 30s and married.
Somehow even though I didn’t admit it to myself for most of that time, it still didn’t keep me from enjoying guys in porn, so IDK what kind of cognitive dissonance I had going there.
I never was like that in my life, so it doesn’t count for me.
My answer is for those who aren’t like this. I’ve met people in this community, and apart from a few bad apples based upon what I do, I hadn’t had any issues with them. Now, it’s said that people will hang out with those because of a shared interest, and while I had spoken to LGBTQ+ peeps, I never did anything under this banner.
Early teens, around 13-14. I didn’t come out and transition until about age 25 though.
I was 18 when I realized I felt the same way about Ro Laren and Maria Hill as I did about any men I thought were attractive but it wasn’t for several more years that I realized that when most people were attracted to someone they actually wanted to do something about it
For a lot of my adolescence I suspected I’d transition eventually. At 18 though I accepted I wasn’t cis. At 19 I accepted I was a binary trans woman. And at 20 after starting hormones I accepted that I had been attracted to men after estrogen made me not attracted to them. So yeah 18, because even when nonbinary is a stepping stone identity it’s still queer.
Don’t know what I am yet, but definitely confident enough to consider myself LGBTQ last year at 30
Roundabout 27. I consider myself barely under the umbrella even to the point of calling myself “Diet Queer” as I’m a heteroromantic demisexual. I’ve always been around people that are much more queer presenting than I am so I seemed straight as fuck in comparison.
12 i realized i liked boys and girls
I was around 20 when I first started browsing trans subreddits “as an ally”, and I also made a few jokes to some friends about how “I’m probably non-binary lol”.
I was 23 when I finally actually came to terms with my gender and sexual orientation. Those three years were rough :P
14ish when I started having those kind of feelings for other boys, and idk probably 19-20 the first time I said it out loud
Around 14 or 15 and was terrified of anyone in my family finding out so I kept that realization locked down. I actually never came out to my family as a queer woman. Then, in my 30s, one of my jesus freak aunts found a picture of me and my then girlfriend on said girlfriend’s social media page, still to this day don’t know how, and sent it to my entire family. Boy howdy was that a to-do.
Early teens:
D’Angelo’s video for Untitled (How Does It Feel)? made me realize I like dudes too. Round the same time I remember blushing heavily watching the male gym teacher do pushups.
Knew I liked women earlier when some kid snuck a stack of porno mags and a bunch of kids flipped thru em ogling the titties etc.
Around 15-16. I used to browse 4chan during it’s heavy trap phase and realized I don’t mind if they have a penis as long as they look like a girl
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