• TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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    6 days ago

    It’s often less about how one actually presents and more about people who know you refusing to change how they refer to you. People who knew you before often don’t change how they think of you until forced to reconcile with it. Until they see AND accept that you’re incontrovertibly feminine, they’ll keep calling you sir even if most new people who meet you call you ma’am.

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      6 days ago

      Thanks, appreciate it.

      It could be cognitive bias (because of the words around it), but the girl on the screenshot does look a bit manly to me (but it also can be lighting, angle, makeup, hair, scales and horns; after all those are the tools of drag and I’m not an expert at gendering peeps. Fortunately my native language has gendered names, verbs and nouns so misgendering someone after their first sentence is gramatically improbable)