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i use my language’s equivalent of bro and dude for woman too sometimes.
“Dude” has become as gender neutral in my spaces as “queen” has.
Same. I mean, dude is regionally gender neutral where I live so it’s less about my spaces
Someone said “yes, king” to me once and I didn’t like it, mostly because I’m uncomfortable thinking of myself as royalty :/
But yas Queen I’m immune to bc of Rupaul.
No kings for you then, comrade?
I love you, sister. Sorry.
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Itt: everyone doing everything except using the right pronouns
I ain’t your bro son.
The Dude would not abide people who intentionally try to make someone else’s day shit. Live and let’s bowl, I say.
To be serious though, you are valid and deserve courtesy, understanding, and respect. I hate that people do that. Especially those around us.
That Blahaj really tied the transgirl together
Hey their lady mcfemale girl gal
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“Lady”, but I say it like Moe Sizlack talking to the Listen Lady.
A few of these remind me of their usage in customer support, and boy I hate them already before getting into the actual transmeme.
Gurl
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Ed is wrong about some stuff
The 80’s and 90’s were my formative years, so “my dudes” has taken on a gender-agnostic meaning in my view (anecdotal evidence alert), so much so that I address whoever I’ve got in my team for a given day:
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A team full of guys? “Good morning my dudes”;
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A team of mostly guys and some women? “Good morning my dudes”;
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A team of mostly girls and one or two guys? “Good morning my dudes”;
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A team full of girls? “Good morning my dudes” (maybe “dudettes” but then I feel I’m making an exception based on gender which seems demeaning, so dudes is safer);
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A team of a guy, a girl, a rabbit in a hat, and a dog? “Good morning my dudes”;
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A team full of Avril Lavignes? “hey hey you you I don’t like your girlfriend”;
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A team full of people I don’t know because it’s dark? “Good morning my dudes”.
I am a simple person.
it’s interesting that you are using “guy” as “man”, because the next person is gonna say, that “you guys” is also gender neutral
I was so happy those years I lived in the us south. I earned my Y’all Card (I am now fully licensed to say Y’all) and it is pretty great
damn
i don’t live in the us, i just use y’all because its a useful language feature that honestly should be the default ;w;
I never even considered that. Learning one’s blind spots is always a benefit 😊
I’m not even sure if “blindspot” could be construed as an ableist term.
Every human has a blind spot where their retina connects to their optic nerve
You forgot: Wednesday? “My dudes”
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So you’re saying I should just stop feeling dysphoria? Great advice, thanks
Also you should get a pony
I think it is more acknowledging the shift in some English words from their strictly gendered origins.
How this affects you and your own feelings is entirely personal, but I do think the important message is that if someone uses one of these words they likely are not attaching gender to it. While this may not alleviate your dysphoria, I think it’s nice to know people aren’t misgendering you but instead are using previously gendered words in a gender neutral way.
You misunderstood me, I think. My reply was about their phrasing. “Should’ve taught” makes it sound like the onus is on me to idk watch Good Burger (which I have seen, and I understand the reference, by the way) and feel some great relief.
If people know that those words cause you dysphoria and continue to use them, they for sure are misgendering you though
I’d say if its an individual in your life that you have told to not refer to you that way then yes.
If it is a stranger, particularly a younger stranger, then assuming misgendering is probably going to not be linguistically accurate and cause you uneccessary mental distress.
I think the increased neutrality of previously gendered words is overall a good thing.
I did explicitly state “if people know” - obviously it doesn’t apply to strangers
Gotcha, I misinterpreted your meaning there. I thought the indication was people should be educated to know and found that impractical.
We’re on the same page
I don’t have many trans people in my life and I always stumbled over my words when I found myself in a position where I had to address them in the third person.
My most awkward memory is a conversation with my friend where I addressed her as “my wee lass”.
Anyway, we’re married now and expecting our third Calico.
Three? That’s a lot of personality in one place.
That’s why you gotta hit em with the “homie”, “home slice”, “big dawg”, “amigo”, “boss”, or “friendo”.
Do I gotta kiss em on the lips? I’m not prepared for this level of homeslicing. I’m in too deep please advise.
Yes, but tongue is optional, as is tradition.
i know homies kiss homies, but homies nibbling on homies necks has me worried about vampires and i’m like almost out of toum. i got like, maybe half a gallon left? that’s not enough.
They might actually enjoy those. I found best effect by using something else that they might consider diminutive. Kiddo, sport, Buck, “little man”. If they get too upset, you can always pass it off as, “oh, sorry. That’s what I call my sibling/kid/nephew” etc. Which is the same bullshit reasoning they tend to give us “oh sorry, it’s just how you look though.”
I’ve noticed this on my main page and am here to get educated: what is the meme about?
I’m assuming the meme is about her being male presenting and hit with male pronouns from strangers who assume the gender visually, while the OP would prefer to be addressed by female pronouns (I’m not sure how said strangers should know that though, but that’s not the meme point)?
Or is it a meme about being stuck in the process and however she tries she’s still male presenting for reasons unknown to her?
It’s often less about how one actually presents and more about people who know you refusing to change how they refer to you. People who knew you before often don’t change how they think of you until forced to reconcile with it. Until they see AND accept that you’re incontrovertibly feminine, they’ll keep calling you sir even if most new people who meet you call you ma’am.
Thanks, appreciate it.
It could be cognitive bias (because of the words around it), but the girl on the screenshot does look a bit manly to me (but it also can be lighting, angle, makeup, hair, scales and horns; after all those are the tools of drag and I’m not an expert at gendering peeps. Fortunately my native language has gendered names, verbs and nouns so misgendering someone after their first sentence is gramatically improbable)
