My male best friend and I have known each other since we were 12, and we both happen to be foreigners in the country we’re living in (I’m from Switzerland, and he’s from India). We’re super close and talk about anything and everything. My boyfriend doesn’t care about it, but he still says that my best friend is just “waiting for his turn with me.” However, he trusts me, and I’m happy, so it’s cool. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a best friend of the opposite gender. I also read a thread on another site about it, and opinions were mixed, so I’m curious what you think.
Honestly, make sure you show your boyfriend your lemmy posts lusting after him if you haven’t; he’ll be on top of the world and feel very secure!
He’s not wrong though, your friend might have unrealistic ideas about how things could go in the future…you’re the best person to judge that! If you think there’s something there then you’d better talk about it sooner than later! I do think that’s a special thing worth thinking about in this situation that makes it a little different from a different friendship.