Gotta remember selection bias. The single women are (eternally) on the dating market because of their horrible views, the ones who aren’t horrible are not on the dating market anymore or only very very short.
Wouldn’t that argument work the same way for men? To be clear, I’m not a fan of that argument for any gender. But fair is fair.
I’m polyam, so my experiences are quite different. I’m finding more married people looking for a third, which is awkward when I’m more of a “relationship anarchist” and don’t want to put my partners into tiers above/below each other (or be put into such tiers myself.)
People just want all the the benefits with none of the drawbacks. They are just selfish and greedy.
I often see the whole ‘monogamish’ nonsense now too. It basically means, I want all the benefits of monogamy, but when I also want to be able to bang other people when I want, but also you can’t do that because that would make me feel insecure…
I actaully did date someone like that. She wanted to date other people, but as soon as I started seeing other women she got very very angry and jealous and told me it was not ‘fair’. She was just a selfish asshole who wanted me to be monogamous to her, while she was no monogamous to me. I’ve met other women with this attitude too, but I once they express that nonsense I move on.
Poly is too much work and complexity for these people. They just want to be children who want to do what they feel without any consequences or responsibilities that something polyamory requires. And like children, they throw temper tantrums when they don’t get their way. They want to eat their ice cream on a hot sunny day and they are angry that it is melting too fast.
You’re absolutely right on that. Some people really just want the freedom for themselves, but not for their partners. Which is ridiculous. After all, “What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.” If someone hasn’t got the maturity it takes for polyamory, then they’re not ready for it.
Gotta remember selection bias. The single women are (eternally) on the dating market because of their horrible views, the ones who aren’t horrible are not on the dating market anymore or only very very short.
it’s not selection bias, it’s what’s on the market.
unless you think I should start trying to date married women?
married women’s views aren’t relevant to single men because they aren’t available to date.
Wouldn’t that argument work the same way for men? To be clear, I’m not a fan of that argument for any gender. But fair is fair.
I’m polyam, so my experiences are quite different. I’m finding more married people looking for a third, which is awkward when I’m more of a “relationship anarchist” and don’t want to put my partners into tiers above/below each other (or be put into such tiers myself.)
No, men are obviously evil
People just want all the the benefits with none of the drawbacks. They are just selfish and greedy.
I often see the whole ‘monogamish’ nonsense now too. It basically means, I want all the benefits of monogamy, but when I also want to be able to bang other people when I want, but also you can’t do that because that would make me feel insecure…
I actaully did date someone like that. She wanted to date other people, but as soon as I started seeing other women she got very very angry and jealous and told me it was not ‘fair’. She was just a selfish asshole who wanted me to be monogamous to her, while she was no monogamous to me. I’ve met other women with this attitude too, but I once they express that nonsense I move on.
Poly is too much work and complexity for these people. They just want to be children who want to do what they feel without any consequences or responsibilities that something polyamory requires. And like children, they throw temper tantrums when they don’t get their way. They want to eat their ice cream on a hot sunny day and they are angry that it is melting too fast.
You’re absolutely right on that. Some people really just want the freedom for themselves, but not for their partners. Which is ridiculous. After all, “What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.” If someone hasn’t got the maturity it takes for polyamory, then they’re not ready for it.