Last night I had a hookup for the first time. I told the guy I wanted him to use a condom, which offended him because he was like, “Why do I need to use one if you already have an IUD? Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?” I told him I just don’t know him that well. Either way it was fine in the end, he put it on and it was a fine night. Now I’m thinking, was I being a pushover?
STD’s are no joke, wrap it before you tap it.
I’ve been with my partner for 6 months and we still use condoms. Pregnancy is not the only risk.
Be safe and have a frank discussion before you stop using protection. Possibly both of you get an std test first.
The fuck girl!?! If any guy had ever said that to me I wouldn’t have slept with them at all. Condoms are just as effective at preventing STI’s as they are pregnancy.
The only time I ever had sex without a condom was with a long term partner who agreed to be exclusive, AFTER we both got tested and shared our results. Had several long term partners before getting married. Probably slept with a couple dozen dudes over the years. Never caught any STI.
For me personally, it’s bit of a red flag if the pregnancy/std conversation doesn’t happen before sex. I need to know that you take the risks as seriously as I do. I’m not into guys, but I definitely wouldn’t be into a guy this dismissive about my safety.
“Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?”
Based on your willingness to rawdog strangers, yes.
“Do you think I’m some STD-ridden guy?”
No, it’s smart and reasonable.
You can have STIs without knowing it. STIs can kill you. No, you are not overreacting
IDK what the ettiquette is in these cases but… if I were “the receptive partner” then any casual hook up would be wearing a condom.
Is requiring the guy to use a condom even though you have an IUD being over the top?
No.
A “pushover” is someone whose mind is easily changed by pressure, not someone who is pushy or who pushes other people around.
you get to choose what goes into your body, nobody else.
STD’s aren’t diagnosed (mostly) just by looking at people. That’s exactly why they’re so tough to eradicate.
Wear protection and protect yourself. You did just fine here. If he is unwilling to be up to your safety needs, then he’s not worth keeping around.
Not if you like avoiding STDs.
Nope. Feeling a way about how others should treat your body is never over the top. Rules is rules and rule-breakers get to walk home all sad-face.
I hope you had a good time in the end!
IUD’s don’t protect against STI/STD
