Tbf I think this is an american thing. I have never asked someone for their hight, nor ever seen anyone ask this. American women are obsessed with men hight.
People treat dating apps as a filter, and think that they’ll only get people that match what they entered. So it becomes a wishlist for them. If they met a really great guy who happened to be short, sure they’d date him. But all other things being equal, would they prefer a tall guy to a short guy? Yes. All things aren’t equal of course, but other stuff is harder to quantify. There’s no “not an asshole” filter, for example.
I love my height, would love to be even a couple inches taller, but the legit short guys I’ve been with did make me feel insecure because they were sort of fetishists, only one in a way I felt ok about; they NEEDED a woman taller than them the same way women do to guys.
What someone pointed out to me once though, was that maybe I was implementing my own bias and didn’t want to be with a guy so much taller than me because I’m not used to feeling short and it isn’t a good feeling to me. So even though my conscious mind thinks I’m irritated by tall men’s obsession with short women, and my daughters think I kind of robbed them of their potential height, it probably is an affirmative preference not just a default result.
As someone who’s well over 2 meters tall, I can tell you that no matter where I travel, people always ask. Just depending on the country, they just stop me walking in public, or only after some small talk.
Well over 2 meters… wow, that must be inconvenient. I’m just over 6 foot and everything feels like it was built for people way shorter than me. Showers, kitchen counters, airline seats, etc.
You don’t see how actually using feet as the measurement already signifies just how American it is?
Most people in my country don’t even have an idea on how much 6ft is.
The average height here is ~180, which translates as 5"11’.
I have literally never in my life known a person who had 182cm as an arbitrary height limit for guys. Actually, I’ve not seen any type of height limits basically, aside from a few girls having the criteria of “I would prefer to date someone at least as tall as me.”
Like I’m sure no-one around you considers someone showing their ankle or elbow to be indecent, but you know a lot of people used to. Or I mean I don’t know where you live, you might live in a country where that still applies, but I don’t think it’s likely.
Back then ankles and elbows were inherently sexy because of the taboo. For some reason height is sexy for Americans, but people just don’t focus as much on it in some cultures I guess
It is a weird American thing, but I’m not sure where it comes from. My husband and I are the same height, he might be an inch or so taller than me. I love him, and height isn’t something I really care about.
However, I’ve had some “friends” who decided to voice their opinion on my partner and say stupid shit like “he’d be more handsome if he was taller” or “I could never be with a short guy.”
I guess it’s a good thing he’s not married to you then isn’t it? I’m not friends with those women anymore for obvious reasons. They were 30 something year old mean girls.
I’m 5’3 and used to date a girl that was 5’10 she got comments like that from some of her friends all the time when we were together. They’d even say shit in front of me and then act like I was an asshole for not wanting to associate with them. I’m not insecure about my height at all but I’m also not going to be disrespected over something I can’t control.
I’ve never made height a thing in dating. But! I’m the shortest living member of my family (and by a large margin) so I appreciate when I have a partner who can reach all the things I can’t reach at the store or wherever.
Why do we even have shelves so high off the ground???
"Hay guys, I’m a divorced, unemployed, BBW (obese) woman, looking for a fit. Good looking, wealthy, muscular guy over 6’ to take care of me and my 5 kids. Must be at least 6’ to ride this curvy (obese) gal "
Tbf I think this is an american thing. I have never asked someone for their hight, nor ever seen anyone ask this. American women are obsessed with men hight.
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I don’t get it. Is there a rotating 1kW laser mounted on my head that may decapitate a woman slightly taller then me I didn’t recognize all my life?!
People treat dating apps as a filter, and think that they’ll only get people that match what they entered. So it becomes a wishlist for them. If they met a really great guy who happened to be short, sure they’d date him. But all other things being equal, would they prefer a tall guy to a short guy? Yes. All things aren’t equal of course, but other stuff is harder to quantify. There’s no “not an asshole” filter, for example.
So what “If you’re not 6 feet tall, don’t bother” really means is “Hit me up anyway, we might click.”
No, it means ‘I’m a vapid person and you’re dodging a bullet by swiping left on me’.
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I love my height, would love to be even a couple inches taller, but the legit short guys I’ve been with did make me feel insecure because they were sort of fetishists, only one in a way I felt ok about; they NEEDED a woman taller than them the same way women do to guys.
What someone pointed out to me once though, was that maybe I was implementing my own bias and didn’t want to be with a guy so much taller than me because I’m not used to feeling short and it isn’t a good feeling to me. So even though my conscious mind thinks I’m irritated by tall men’s obsession with short women, and my daughters think I kind of robbed them of their potential height, it probably is an affirmative preference not just a default result.
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It’s not just the US, unreasonable focus on height is a thing in a number of countries, even non-western ones.
Though, where I live, it would be weird to ask this on a date.
As someone who’s well over 2 meters tall, I can tell you that no matter where I travel, people always ask. Just depending on the country, they just stop me walking in public, or only after some small talk.
But that has nothing to do with the dating thing where a lot of girls won’t consider men under a given height, no exceptions.
Well over 2 meters… wow, that must be inconvenient. I’m just over 6 foot and everything feels like it was built for people way shorter than me. Showers, kitchen counters, airline seats, etc.
It is not a US thing I can assure you. You get bios from some women’s in dating apps stating “what do you call a man under 6’0”? A friend."
As if that’s going to stop me from swiping right!
You don’t see how actually using feet as the measurement already signifies just how American it is?
Most people in my country don’t even have an idea on how much 6ft is.
The average height here is ~180, which translates as 5"11’.
I have literally never in my life known a person who had 182cm as an arbitrary height limit for guys. Actually, I’ve not seen any type of height limits basically, aside from a few girls having the criteria of “I would prefer to date someone at least as tall as me.”
Americans are a nation of short kings, lol.
Where I live, we only use metric for height, pizza size and dick size lol.
You are lucky to not be surrounded by shallow people, I suppose.
No no, a lot of them are extremely shallow.
Just not about height.
Like I’m sure no-one around you considers someone showing their ankle or elbow to be indecent, but you know a lot of people used to. Or I mean I don’t know where you live, you might live in a country where that still applies, but I don’t think it’s likely.
Back then ankles and elbows were inherently sexy because of the taboo. For some reason height is sexy for Americans, but people just don’t focus as much on it in some cultures I guess
It is a weird American thing, but I’m not sure where it comes from. My husband and I are the same height, he might be an inch or so taller than me. I love him, and height isn’t something I really care about.
However, I’ve had some “friends” who decided to voice their opinion on my partner and say stupid shit like “he’d be more handsome if he was taller” or “I could never be with a short guy.”
I guess it’s a good thing he’s not married to you then isn’t it? I’m not friends with those women anymore for obvious reasons. They were 30 something year old mean girls.
I don’t have time for that shit.
exactly! From all the things I think about when thinking of a partner Hight is not one of them at all. If a women cares about it its a red flag
I’m 5’3 and used to date a girl that was 5’10 she got comments like that from some of her friends all the time when we were together. They’d even say shit in front of me and then act like I was an asshole for not wanting to associate with them. I’m not insecure about my height at all but I’m also not going to be disrespected over something I can’t control.
I’ve never made height a thing in dating. But! I’m the shortest living member of my family (and by a large margin) so I appreciate when I have a partner who can reach all the things I can’t reach at the store or wherever.
Why do we even have shelves so high off the ground???
For storage. Like, putting things on them.
American women ads be like:
"Hay guys, I’m a divorced, unemployed, BBW (obese) woman, looking for a fit. Good looking, wealthy, muscular guy over 6’ to take care of me and my 5 kids. Must be at least 6’ to ride this curvy (obese) gal "
the fact that you used obese twice shows me you are as trash as the women you are trying to mimic
I offended an obese one
Haha casual sexism
American men ads be like:
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