• ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    Somewhat tangential, but my sister-in-law insists that people use “latinx” whenever she hears someone say latino or latina. This despite the fact that latinos overwhelmingly prefer the terms “latino” or “hispanic” to describe themselves; in fact most have never even heard the term latinx and most of those who have are offended by that, not by latino or hispanic. I like pointing out to my (very white) sister-in-law that there is nothing more white than telling other ethnicities what they should or should not be called.

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          1 month ago

          to be fair I don’t know how to pronounce the x in english either.

          but that is the one I’ve heard most often. edit: e not x, most often

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        They can call themselves latinx and I would call them that as well, if that’s what they choose. The issue is with people (like my sister-in-law) insisting that everybody hispanic should be called latinx.

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          im just saying, those are the only people who I listen to on this discourse and I will parrot whatever they say, because my tounge absolutely defiles that language every time I try to speak it, and don’t think straight cis people have a right to an opinion here, regardless of their language preference.

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        The male form doubles as gender neutral. Some people have tried to start using -e ending, but I’m pretty sure basically no one actually uses it.

        Edit: Gotta love the dualing anecdote replies.

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          e ending is what I’ve seen from gender non conforming spanish-as-first-language speakers most often. I’m gonna go with it until it starts being overwhelmed with something else, languages being living things and them being the people who I see as having any right to determine this bit.

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          1 month ago

          As someone who is native of a romance language, I would prefer using the male form. It doesn’t feels 100%, but it’s worth it.

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      Latino/a individuals have overwhelmingly said “No” to Latinx.

      I haven’t had many latina friends, but the ones I have had basically said a slur would actually be less offensive than latinx, and yeah, white people dictating what other cultures can and can’t do… kinda racist…

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      it’s about the minority that don’t feel as though latino/a doesn’t describe them. it’s not for the majority favored by the status quo

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          displease the majority to give visibility to the minority. no one is hurt when latinx is used, but the people latinx additionally represents face violence every day

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        Guessing you’re being downvoted because Latino != Spanish just like American != British. “Spanish descent” is applicable to some, but Latino backgrounds are as diverse as American or Canadian backgrounds. It doesn’t refer to a race or culture but to people who identify with the Latin American region (Central and South American and parts of the Caribbean).

        This is a TIL for me btw, as I originally was just going to respond that it includes Portugese but then looked up more information about “Latino” because I realized my idea of it was very general and wasn’t sure if those with Aztec descent, for example, would be considered “Latino”. The answer is yes, along with many descendent from areas all over the world, in case the first paragraph didn’t make that clear.

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    1 month ago

    They don’t want a relationship, they want a never ending storyline. And if there’s no drama then they’ll make some.

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      This was my life for 7 years. I’ve been happily single ever since she found some other poor sob to torment with her bullshit.

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        4 years and one canceled marriage 3 months prior. 5 if you count the fact that I took her back twice before realizing she was always going to be like that.

        I feel you even if I wouldn’t say I’m entirely happy.

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    If there’s something that drives me up the wall, it’s this shit. You found someone nice and you blame them for your fuckups and try to turn everyone against them. How scummy can you be!

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      She won’t let a licensed therapist help her, so no, they also can’t do anything.