I’ve never understood our societies obsession with when men lose their virginity. You see it in media all the time like in ‘The 42 year Old Virgin’ and ‘Last American Virgin’. It seems to be a bigger thing with men then women. Can any men here confirm?
Why does it matter when someone loses their virginity? If you ask me it’s no one’s business to when someone loses their v-card. People should lose it when they feel comfortable to. I hate our societies insistence that men lose it before the age of 18. Like if your an adult virgin our society sees it as a personal failing that makes you a loser. I never understood it myself. It’s frankly ridiculous.
In the big picture, if it’s a voluntary choice I agree. But personally I do think there is an ideal time for most people, and that it’s between 16 & 22. Old enough to be sensible about it, but young enough not to be set in your ways of singlehood.
But average is average, not everyone is average, some people never want to have sex at all, and obviously nobody should feel pressured to meet some arbitrary deadline.
Our society views sex in general in a terrible way. The importance put on it is insane and leads to a ton of contradictory pressures being put on people.
in the usa, its pretty much from porn, or movies and shows, and being repressed by puritanical beleifs.
While that’s true, as much as I don’t care when somebody loses their virginity, if someone has not lost their virginity by a reasonable age, I start to assume they are either overly religious, or socially stunted in some way.
It’s not so much the virginity as not having had an opportunity nor wanting to. There are obviously exceptions, like ace people or those with a history of abuse etc. Like other posters said, it’s more high schoolm thing to care about the age in years. I’m more thinking in decades.
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I mean, if you really wanna be a wizard it matters.
No sex until 40 if you want to have magic. Thems the rules.
40? Don’t quote the old magic to me, not-wizard. I was there when it was written… and can probably dig out the year 2007 or so meme to prove it!
laughs in 40 year old
Shit, I still hate that I lost my wizard potential when that harlot (my friend’s sister) stole my precious seed (consensually had sex with me).
Demon
As someone who lost their virginity aged 28 I understand a lot of what you’re talking about.
It was a big deal in high school. In the adult world, no one cares.
Totally this. No one cares. The few people who do care as adults typically have lots of interpersonal problems
